You can never really be objective about yourself.
But you've got empathy, and you've got self-honesty. That's all you need to get as close as you need to be. Empathy allows you to never really judge anyone else's situation, because you know that they have hidden motivations and wants behind their actions, that they might not even realize. And self-honesty allows you to identify those voices, as you did, and ask yourself which one is telling you the truth. Or better yet follow their threads to their origin, behind your conscious thoughts: what do I really want and why do I want it?