I believe that you formulate with simplicity and lucidity a central problem of human life. No one can escape desires; they constitute us psychically and corporally: As you well maintain, the problem is when they become obsessions and, consequently, dominate us. The ancient sages had it very much in mind, and from there arose those thoughts such as stoicism, Buddhism, and practices such as yoga and zen, which seek to lead desire and mind. Surely, we do not have that vocation...
I believe that, without trying to give any solution, in part the question is to pause to meditate a little on what drives us, and weigh it in our lives, confronting it with realities. It will always be a difficult and perhaps unsatisfactory task.
Thank you for your thoughtful and illustrative post, @nancybriti.