What do you think is the best way to find a relationship?
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Firstly, to get into the relationship you want, you need to know what kind of relationship you want. So know your deal-breakers and remember that you have every right to stick to them. “A deal-breaker is an issue that is so important to a person, that if the other person will not compromise or concede, the relationship would probably not work out, “They are things that are so deeply and utterly important to the person, that they could not be in a relationship with someone who did not share, or at least support and respect them. Deal-breakers are usually formed throughout our lives, and start in childhood. They are made up of personal, or familial, values, beliefs, and their sense of right and wrong.”
It could be anything from whether or not you want kids, needing complete honesty, wanting support in your career, where you want to live, how you deal with money — anything that’s important to you. Decide what you need out of a relationship and keep that in mind. Compromise is important in a relationship, but so are boundaries.
Dating apps can make it difficult to really focus on the dating process — and the people involved. "A mindful approach to life generally means doing one thing at a time and doing only that," relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW tells Bustle. "Often when people use dating apps, they are ambivalent." I found all of the swiping impersonal — and it led to me treating people as more disposable than I should have done. So make sure that when you’re chatting to people and looking at potential dates, you’re taking your time and really giving it the attention it deserves.
It may sound counterintuitive, but knowing how to be single is important for getting into a relationship. If you love being single, you’re not going to jump into a bad relationship for the wrong reasons. "I'd rather be single, in a comfortable relationship with myself, than trapped in a dysfunctional, toxic relationship with someone else," certified relationship coach Rosalind Sedacca tells Bustle. It’s so true. If you can embrace single life, then you’re not going to settle you’ll wait until the relationship you actually want comes along.
If you want to be in a relationship, it’s natural to have an urge to move quickly — especially when you meet someone you really seem to click with. But make sure to take your time and allow authentic bonds to form. "I don't care how well-adjusted you are, it takes time for a human being to earn another human being's deep trust," clinical hypnotherapist, author and educator Rachel Astarte, who offers transformational coaching for individuals and couples at Healing Arts New York, tells Bustle. "If you expect that bond to happen immediately, you will likely be disappointed.” But if you take your time and get to know someone, you’ll know that you’re getting a really strong foundation.
A new year is a great time to find the relationship that you really want — whatever that means for you. Relationships are not a one-size-fits-all situation. Work out what you really want in a relationship and then take your time finding and nurturing that. If you can do that, you’re far more likely to find the kind of relationship you really want.
Whether these zodiac signs' habits are due to insecurities, miscommunications, or perspectives completely out of line with their partners', they can become lifelong bad habits if not addressed. Luckily, every single sign has their own things to overcome, so no one is alone in dealing with this issue.
Some of these habits might clash more than others. Zodiac compatibility takes into account not only matching good traits, but also how each sign deals with conflict, and their chances of overcoming tough times. A couple is less likely to last through inevitable bumps in the road if their habits clash. Cancer and Aquarius, for example, are two signs that are not known for their compatibility. Both have habits of ignoring their partner when the going gets rough.
Still, just because a person displays bad relationship patterns doesn't necessarily mean they'll fall into toxic relationships. "People can make the same mistakes over and over again in relationships," astrologist Lisa Stardust tells Bustle. " [...] Sun signs (zodiac signs) can shed insight into the patterns people make, what they are prone to repeat, until they have the urge to transform.” And with open communication between partners, the couple should be able to figure out how to fix potential problems by overcoming whatever issues they're dealing with.