I still do not understand why a man would want you in his life but won't take responsibilty to make sure he gets you... that should be an instant red flag... i mean? Its different if yoi support but if you do it all? My dear as a lady it isn't really a wise decision!
No matter how broke a man is ge should be able to see how important marriage to the one he loves is to him and he should be more than willing to make an effort!