It Is Not By Force II, Contributed By @Olawalium.
…continued… from part 1.
A friend of mine that I have been advising about a particular guy sent me a text to tell me that she would be doing her introduction on the 17th of this month. I was really excited for her and I asked her if it was the same guy I know, and she said yes, then my heart became heavy a little. I am happy she has finally decided to tie the knot and she said the wedding is next year but knowing this lady as I do and the guy as she has told me several times, you would know she want to get married to this guy because she feels age is no longer on her side. Age doesn’t equate to maturity. When you make the choice of getting married, in marriage you are assumed you are matured and the stuff you will be facing would take only a matured mind to deal with it.
She has complained to me several times about how this guy has been insensitive, uncaring and not ready. She would complain to this guy’s mum; because they were a little close too. This guy would leave her in the house, go out with his guy friend all day and come back late at night, eat and then just sleep. No communication or closeness with this lady he wants to marry. I have told her several times to heed the warning signs since she has complained to this guy over and over again and nothing is changing.
It hurts to see most people throw caution to the wind and ignore the warning signs they see in their relationship. You have to do what’s best for you in a relationship. She only wants this guy because he look like he is made but deep down this guy isn’t ready and I won’t be surprised if the mother of this guy has a hand in this introduction coming up earlier this month. You can’t force a guy who isn’t ready to be ready; that is frustration waiting to unload. You might force him to go through with the ceremony but you can’t force maturity that comes with readiness on him. He needs to feel ready.
The society plays a part in people being so eager to get married with the timely reminder they give every time they see you. With the desire to satisfy the social media in-laws too, we accept just any kind of guy or lady that comes our way all in a bid to silence those wagging tongues and prying eyes, forgetting those people won’t be there with you when you are going through marriage.
…to be continued…
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Being single forever even pay than to be in a forced relationship, what if she didnt find the happiness she deserve?
What if the marriage didnt even last?
What if the guy even turn her to punching bag?
I hope she think twice before the marriage
We need to be alert from warning signs,we can't push someone for marriage if he is not ready for it, wait him until he wishes for marriage himself.
Have a good day @olawalium
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Yes, a lot of people ignore the warning signs while others force another person into marriage. They see marriage as a goal forgetting they are breaking another person's soul.