amazing post.
as an educator I've had to step back and see what is working and what isnt.
I don't think you can be too soft. I think what you need is to be REAL.
Communicate. Have them understand that I am not asking you to do something or Im not telling you to do something to detriment you. I'm here to help you.
It's hard sometimes.
I totally agree with you. Thanks for this contribution.