It would be amazing, but the sad truth is most parents were children once, too, and they weren't "let" to do any of those things, so figures they don't now with their own kids. Well, I guess it doesn't figure, because change depends on us and you can't really blame your parents and all, yet many do.
You see it in some parents, who on the one hand complain about their poor little babies who have to break their backs over hours of dull, pointless homework, and yet, when you suggest alternatives or maybe to cut them some slack, they immediately tell you how they too suffered hours of homework. Like it's retribution or something.
I saw something earlier today, said your kids aren't your art and it's selfish to think so. Kids are their own artists, creating their own lives and you, as parent, get to watch them do it. But it's not your canvas, it's theirs.
Really liked this post, Red :)
As you said change depends on us. We all have to take responsibility of our own actions, however our upbringing. I was not parented the way I parent now. It has taken a ton of deconditioning and healing to get to this point in my journey of parenthood. I realized that it was down to me to break the cycle, and it was very empowering to know that I can!
I love the last bit about kids being their own artists. It is so true, and it's time parents start being way more conscious about what they project onto their children, because of their own fears, insecurities and negative experiences. It's not easy, but it's possible and very freeing once the conscious effort is made. And the truth is, (parenting) life is a lot more relaxing, fulfilling and full of joy, on the other side of "control".
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