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Hi Clay. I find that you end up over thinking things and need to do the opposite.

Nicely put! This is something I worked quite a lot at in last 2 years or so... Constantly reminding myself that I really know nothing about the other/another person/people. I only think I know.
As a result I actually began learning unexpected things about other people. Really opened things up and supplied a lot of space to examine my preconceived notions..

It's pretty interesting when we can break down our own confirmation bias to some extent.

Yeah it is interesting, there is a level of understanding that exists below (or above) verbal understanding. Words are like little nets you throw onto reality and although very useful there is always something the net does not catch. The idea of no mind, no words, just action can be very beneficial.

It's kind of funny, but over the last 1.5 years or so I feel like I've learned so much more by just learning how to get outside of my own head and accept the world and people as they are. Also... Inspirobot is an evil genius...

"When we can't stop thinking about someone or something, we make them or it intangible in some way."

That is an interesting thought but I think it can work both ways. That is to say I think we focus more on what we don't or can't have. It comes back around though becaus our focus on that thing kind of leads us to over state its virtue to the point that our image of it becomes unreal which makes the object of desire become something that is intangible.

There is a (kind of) related issue that this reminds of though. We accept when people focus one things that they desire but we seem to be weirded out when people focus on what they do have. In old love poetry, the spends his time thinking about a woman from afar and everyone is fine with that but is he was spending the same ammount of time focusung on a woman that he is involved with, it comes off as strange.

That's interesting. As someone that has written poetry from both perspectives I can say that there is totally a very different feel to them. In general though, I try to not really worry about others thoughts and just appreciate things and people for who or what they are and not try to make them into my perception of them. I think that's the core difference. Trying to make people into something versus trying to make our perception match reality. Plus there's the fact that people are always changing, so even if we could completely know another person, they would be someone else by the time we got done thinking. :)

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