Hello dear @dobartim, Though there could be a part of you that understands being out of your narcissist in your life's the ideal thing, there is also which part of you which desperately overlooks that relationship and wants to reconnect. So you end up torn rather than knowing what to do to escape this turmoil. Ive provided a lot of tools on my website and thru my electronic books to help deal with the pain, to support you and manage the psychic relationship, but some may nevertheless find themselves suffering considerably and at a loss regarding what to do. In our society we've been taught which pain is bad and something to prevent.

It is because it does not feel good. We do not like pain. Whether it's psychological pain or bodily we find ways to escape it like analgesic and dependence. But as physical pain is a sign of something that needs healing in our body, psychological pain is a sign of healing that must occur within our mental performance. I often speak about the way narcissistic abuse may be the catalyst for inner transformation. It's because it can take us into the place of the deepest wounding. We collapse into the wounded ego. We feel those feelings we've spend our life running out of some degree.

That is why so many people believe stuck and not able to proceed. Going back into where you once were is not really an option for most.