Well said, @jaynie, and as @nickyhavey says, so relevant on this platform right now. There are two inherent challenges in what you say. Perhaps more. One is resiliance (or more plainly: a thick skin). It takes time to learn that and it can be a hard an painful lesson when the barbs come thick and fast. For no apparent reason.

Second is having the courage of one's convictions, sticking to them and knowing when there is no shame in walking away. Some people don't have the maturity (perhaps never will) to agree to differ. We don't have to agree all the time and what is their truth may not be mine. Facts aside. They, too, are argued as you note. Evidence, smevidence in some people's minds.

What I don't get is people being personal and mean just for the sake of it.

Happy Sunday :D

Actually, I wrote a bit about this here https://steemit.com/dpoll/@fionasfavourites/prose-prayer-and-prey