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RE: Psychology Addict # 35 | Talking About Naughty Children: Treading on Egg Shells

in #psychology6 years ago
My mother once taught me when I have children, my mother says As you often find your child difficult to manage and often fussy when given advice and understanding, then do not rush to give them the predicate of 'bad boy', 'brat' and others etc. Do you know that the naughty predicate you give them will make them not confident with their environment. In addition, the predicate you've given to this child will make them just like being given a label that continues to stick in them that makes them feel in vain when they become good kids.

Instead of judging and giving them such a title, it is a good idea to have a child in the wrongdoer approach your child and grasp his shoulders and give them the understanding not to make a mistake because it is a dishonorable act. Do not miss give your child a look and make them promise not to repeat it.

When you expect your child to grow up and become a child with modest and good behavior, then correct our attitude first and be a good example for them. The most telling lesson that can be given to a child is not just limited to theory and advice, but also to be accompanied by practice and reality. In addition, children will generally imitate what they have witnessed. If our actions and behavior are not in accordance with prevailing norms then do not be surprised if your child can be very naughty and difficult to manage.

When children make mistakes let alone the act is done in public that makes us embarrassed, it seems we want to scold them. However, as a good parent, we should not wreak the anger at the same place let alone many people witnessed. The mistakes your child may make are probably the unintentional mistakes they make, so control your anger and ask them why they can do it. After that, just give advice and convey it gently. Your child may feel embarrassed and guilty about the problems he or she makes, so do not perparah regret with your insults that will make them more depressed.

Establish rules to limit children's behavior. In addition, institute strict sanctions for them. But of course not by using violence that will hurt children and make them in danger. Suppose that when you apply the hours of instruction from 7 to 8 hours, while your child is busy playing games on his computer. So give him a sanction like taking his computer and not allowing him to play the game until the time he learns at the end of the day. In this way the child will gradually settle his obligations before taking up his rights.

Stop tolerating children when the rules you apply violate them. The more tolerance you give will make the child more free to break all the rules you have created for them. That way they will tend to become dissidents and unruly.

I myself have not practiced everything my mother said and taught, because I myself am not married.

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When you expect your child to grow up and become a child with modest and good behavior, then correct our attitude first and be a good example for them.

Absolutely @jamalgayoni, nicely put! :)

Establish rules to limit children's behavior. In addition, institute strict sanctions for them. But of course not by using violence that will hurt children and make them in danger.

Correct! To be a strict parent and set rules doesn't mean to be violent!

Thank you for your thoughtful comment Jamal.
Have a wonderful day :)

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