RE: Psychology Addict # 44 | Envy: An Unfortunate Facet of Human Nature
The self that when threatened by the outperformance of another loses sight of its own positive image.
This is so precise definition! It strikes right in person's ego where person can't believe that someone is better than him, so it triggers that dark side of envy without realizing that other person's success doesn't lower your value.
I had a close encounter with this phenomenon while I was in high school - I was in a 'super class' with big number of extremely successful individuals and that energy pulled us into amazing competency which went not only on 'business' but also personal, so today we have the results - we was one of the best classes that professors ever seen there and at the same time there aren't some friendships between us, basically no one loves no one.
It's good to have that healthy dose of envy which will create that competitive spirit and push you further but we should keep it limited and be aware of that dark side.
I see that you read Jordan Peterson, I love that man! :D
It's nice to see one more article of yours Abi :)
Wish you all the best :)
Hey @nikolanikola ❤ :)
The experience you went through in high school is a very interesting one. I say it so because of how competition is so intrinsic to selfishness. In a perfect world, it should be replaced by cooperation. But, I am sure that evolution is greatly responsible for this! Otherwise, if we hadn't had our ego, or self-image threatened what motivation would we have to keep on going?
In the end, for the sake of our subjective well-being, it is all about taming our demons, which only can be possible if we get to know them better!
Yes, Peterson is great.
Thank you for stopping by and leaving such an insightful comment :)
You take care!
It's also interesting because we went through that in our teenage period, it just schooled us for the rest of our lives.
Of course, that's why I read your blog :P
It sometimes can be like user's 'how to' guide for self-understanding :D
Owww, you are too kind @nikolanikola. I am going to give you a Friday kiss.
There you go: 😘 😊
Just one kiss? Pfff
:blushing: :sendingkissesback: 😘😘
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