What is the best way to move on after a breakup in a relationship?
There are different perspectives to breakup. It even differs from one culture to another culture and one country to another country. From my experiences and what I have observed in India, I would like to say a few things about relationships and breakup. From an individual perspective, it can be looked in the different ways.
- After-effect of a breakup can be difficult for one person and a relief for another person
- After-effect of a breakup can be a relief for both the parties
- After-effect of a breakup can be difficult for both the parties
I would say it is purely dependent on which situation breakup happened. There are various reasons why breakups happen. One of the most common problems that everyone feels is the long distance. It can be sometimes highly challenging to maintain a good relationship with a long distance partner or lover. That is where usually problems happen and people end up taking a decision to breakup. Well, this is just one simple scenario and this is not the only scenario in which breakup usually occurs. We can say so many such scenarios in which breakup can occur.
There are few things that a person can do after a break up to move on with their life. I would like to mention a few. This will help in making the after breakup life better.
Look for distractions
People who had a painful breakup will not have a piece of mind. There can be high possibilities where the mind will wander a lot and look forward to approaching again and give it a try. If you know for sure that it is not going to work anymore, I would suggest not to approach again. It can be hard for the mind to get convinced but we can easily cheat our mind by providing so many distractions. So distractions can be a great tool to recover from any pain. Travel can be a great option during a breakup. If you are someone who would like to explore more places, then you can do it if you have had a breakup. This will give you lots of distractions and opportunities to spend time with yourself thinking more about what you really want in your life.
Time can heal you
Time is the most important medicine for a breakup. If you are confused on how to proceed with your life after a breakup, give it some time. There is an interesting quote I always say to my friends "Sleep can heal anybody related problem and Time can heal any mind related problem". The after effects of a breakup can usually be related to mind and it will gradually heal if you give it some time.
Look forward to get another partner
For some people it would be something like they cannot live without a partner. Even though they decide to break up, they will start looking out for an alternative. In such a case, if you are ready for the next relationship, you can go ahead and look for a new partner. This ideology is quite common in various countries. They don't really take relationships very serious. If any breakup happens, they immediately get ready to have their next relationship.
Cut down all the communications with your Ex
After a breakup, some people will still try to call or speak to their ex-looking forward to rebuilding the relationship again. If you are sure that it is not going to work out anymore, there is no harm in cutting down all the communications with your Ex. You can look forward to having a better and peaceful life. When I had my breakup, the big mistake that I did was to poke her, again and again, looking for some option somewhere to build the relationship back. This is something that I regret even today.
Spiritual journey
For most of the people their spiritual journey starts only after they have a breakup. Until them, people don't really care about themselves. But after their breakup, they seem to understand what life is all about and what is their purpose in life. They keep questioning about the purpose of life again and again until they find answers for the same. If you are really a spiritual person or someone who would like to explore what spirituality is all about, then the after breakup period can be considered as the right time.
The above things can differ from one person to another person and even from one country to another. Relationships are after all highly complicated. The way relationships are treated in a country is not similar to how it is treated in other countries. In India, there are lots of complications in relationship. Most people who are a traditional wait for their turn and do a marriage arranged by their family. Of course there are people who stay in relationships but it is quite complicated to make sense. If there are western influence over the relationships maybe some of the above points can really be helpful.
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