Good morning @oluwatobiloba. Happy Birthday in advance.

RELATIONSHIP QUESTION FOR THE WEEK
I take two to tangle. It's advisable to work on yourself as well as your partner. Definitely, they both have individual roles to play in becoming better persons.

But if you decide to work on yourself alone, then there are bound to be flaws you don't like in your partner and vice versa. It's always best to work on yourself and then carry your partner along in the growth process.

THE GIST FOR THE DAY
Obviously, parents especially mothers are sometimes too careful about their daughters' relationship with the opposite sex. This is because of bad experiences in time past or stories they have heard.

Someone parents can be extreme with this move which could be detrimental to the child involved.

Children grow an some point in our lives, we have to take our lives in our hands irrespective of how you parents feel about it, we have our lives to live too.

My advice is to Becky is to have a chat with her mother one more time about how she feels about her mothers reaction about hanging out with the opposite sex. This is the the highest honour she can give he mother on this matter.

If her mother fails to turn a new leaf then it's best she takes her life in her hands and choose which ever man she decides to spend her life with no matter how her mother feels about it.

@oluwatobiloba, sorry about loosing loved ones. I know it hurts, but we hope they are in a better place. Life is short, we should do good while we still can.