Healthy Relationship Tip #6: Privacy In A Relationship

Nothing is private in a committed marriage relationship. If you’re in a committed relationship and you’re still looking for your space or privacy, you have no business being in a relationship.

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Relationship is all about sharing; and there is no restriction to what can be shared between the partners in a relationship. You share everything you are and have with your partner without holding back anything. Yes, everything! Any relationship where boundaries or restrictions are placed will always experience unusual problems. I used the word “unusual” here because all relationships normally go through problems but relationships with boundaries or privacy will experience more problems than the usual problems all relationships go through.

If you can share yourself, which is your most private and precious possession with your partner, why should anything else be difficult for you to share with him or her? If I truly love someone and have decided to commit myself and my life to such someone, nothing should be difficult for me to share with such a someone regardless of how costly such a thing may be to me.

I always hear so called prominent relationship experts say this crap that “partners in relationship should learn to respect the privacy and boundaries of each other if they want to avoid problems in their relationship and enjoy relationship bliss”. And I find it very hard to believe that people in committed marriage relationships are actually believing such crap. Boundaries and privacy in a relationship will never prevent problems from a relationship and lead to any relationship bliss. It always creates the opposite effects.

Relationship can hardly sail smoothly in an environment where there’s boundary and privacy. If you’re in a committed life time marriage relationship with someone you love, you should understand that you no longer have a space that is yours or a belonging that is private and inaccessible to your partner. The moment you start creating boundaries or tagging some properties as private, you’re creating a disconnection between you and your partner and creating room for suspicion and distrust. And love can never survive in such type of an environment for too long.

You can’t claim to love someone and commit your life to such someone in a life time relationship of marriage and not want to share everything you are and have with such someone. Love does not create any form of boundary whatsoever between the objects in love. You can’t be in a committed relationship and still want your privacy. It just cannot work.

It is either you sacrifice your crave for privacy and boundary for love or you sacrifice love for your crave for boundary and privacy. They both can’t be in the same boat at the same time without the boat capsizing. The very moment that you made up your mind to commit yourself to that special someone that you claim to love in a life time relationship of marriage, that is the moment you made the decision to sacrifice your crave for privacy and boundary for love.

Your partner should be able to gain access to you at any time without any fear or restriction; and you should also be able to share whatever you are and have with each other without anyone holding anything back. Privacy or space should never be expected or demanded in a committed relationship because love can hardly thrive in an environment where such exist.

Committed relationship is all about sharing and building up each other. Should you feel the need for space or privacy in your relationship, it simply means that something is wrong with your relationship somewhere. You can hardly seek a disconnection or space from someone you truly love if the love is truly there.

Instead of seeking for privacy or space, find out what the problem is and fix it; because the more you demand for privacy in a committed relationship, the more the relationship would go further apart. Don’t destroy your relationship with your demand for privacy or space. Demanding for privacy in a committed relationship stirs suspicion and distrust.

Your partner must be able to gain access to you and everything you have at any point in time when needed. Don’t deny him/her that because you made the decision to offer him or her that the very moment you made up your mind to commit yourself and your life to him or her in that relationship.

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