RE: Sharing some dating wisdom to celebrate my 10 year anniversary.
This was amazing, and I hope life changing for many many guys,
including myself.
I am upvoting and resteeming this as, in reality, these are sorts of
blog posts that really need to be in the trending, hot and promoting
sections here on Steemit.
There's a term for people who are the exact opposite of this, 'f*ck boys'.
The pick up artists who are only out for one night stands, etc.
Sure they get the 'numbers' of partners but they increase their risk of STI's, and a whole mess of trouble.
I can also see a deeper metaphor for posting here on Steemit. At first, there is a tendency to rush out as many posts as you can. You want to raise reputation, SBD, Steem and so forth as much as you can and as a result the quality of what is posted plummets and everything backfires.
The campfire mindset translates to Steemit in the same way.
Real thought, care and compassion for our follower in our posts takes time, is slower, but ultimately leads to a higher reputation and more upvotes / SBD / Steem in the long run.
That is a great photo, by the way.
Thanks, mate.
I never understood why dudes pride themselves on one-nighters.
Surely having a girl want to sleep with you again and again is the thing to be proud of.
Yeah it is. What's incredible is that you can uplift other people, see their inner beauty and bring out their best.
I have always wondered what happens to the women who have been on the end result of this sort of thing. It must be demoralizing, degrading, etc.
When you heard a woman say "all the good ones are taken" you know it's wrong, and that this mindset is one that is holding them back from seeing that sometimes the best guys for them are often already in their lives.
Sometimes its about resetting some expectations.
Look at the rise of the 'incel' (involuntarily celibate).
Men who have given up trying to settle down because they claim no woman will sleep with them (except perhaps for money)
What they really mean is that no woman who looks like the porn stars and instagram models they've fixated on since they were 12 will sleep with them.
What could be more arrogant than claiming that women you don't find attractive don't exist?
(a literal interpretation of the concept of 'involuntarily celibate')
Yeah, there are all sorts of these men's groups around now. I understand the mentality, and even to a certain degree why it would seem appealing.
(Someone is single, frustrated, etc. and therefore vulnerable to what seems like the cure for their ills). But it's all a lie.
It's not only arrogant, but very childish. There's another group called MGTOW (men going their own way) is basically the equivalent of an adult tantrum.
While I can see there are men's issues, a lot of this stuff is conspiratorial and appeals to the lowest common denominator.
I haven't looked into it much, but as I understand, MGTOW is more about staying single and playing the field without settling down.
Getting a vasectomy, and not letting a girl keep anything more than a toothbrush in your house.
In some ways, it's a fairly rational response to the state of society, particularly with the raw deal single dads often get in family court.