My question is: Why should we always be motivated? Why do we always have to be happy? Where in the manual of our lives does it say that we cannot feel unhappiness, sadness, unwillingness? I doubt that our ancestors knew or read about self-help and many of them lived almost one hundred healthy and happy years. Nor have I seen that children have to be taught self-help classes because they laugh, they embrace, they are happy. We adults are the ones who problematize everyone, the ones who are unhappy even because of the weather. It has been in our time when everything is taken for a profit and some have seen how to make money by playing with the feelings of others. I believe in the power of words, of hugs, but that's chemistry, that's another thing. It seems ironic that in this age when there is more knowledge of self-knowledge, there is more suicide. People have to learn to love each other, to accept each other, but you don't learn that in a manual or in a weekend workshop. That's an activity with yourself on a daily basis. It's always good to read to you, @rok-sivante!
Our greatest growth cannot come from those we pay for knowledge - it comes from those whose presence in our lives forces us to confront every bit of discomfort that arises
God you are smart Rok. This is so true I am almost humbled by the wisdom on display.
First thing about personal development though is that is begins inwards. Nothing wrong with seeking outside assistance, but we have to 'conquer' ourselves first
I used to hand out life advice and tried to solve people's problems for them. Of course it never worked. Then someone told me, "You can't solve people's problems. Everyone knows the solutions to their problems, they just don't want to do them." So now when someone has an issue I just nod my head and pretend to listen, which is what they really wanted in the first place.
Well written, I've been going through many positive changes recently but they were the result of years of work and development. One of the best decisions I ever made was giving up pharmaceuticals as well as marijuana, both of which made my depression and anxiety worse. As you said, confronting the reality of why these negative thoughts pop up in my head and painfully tracing them back to their origin helped to properly frame them so I can act accordingly. They didn't necessarily go away, but now when they show up I have the power to tell those thoughts to fuck off and go about my business and continuing my growth.
@rok-sivante, Yes, Personal Development is really vital but for sure it's not an course and something related to the Schedule, instead it's related to our pursuing of thoughts and discipline, specially the study of inner world.
Yes, still people depend upon others when it comes to their improvement and development, but it's our job and we have to concentrate upon that and we have to improve ourselves through the Self Introspection.
Yes, the most negative point which follows by people is, they need easy path and they sometimes don't want to put efforts to improve in life, and this approach inturn will going to push us towards undeveloped situations.
We read life in an negative way that's why we face more pain and that means, if we face any issue then we will thing like, this should not happen to me, and we try to run from it, but this is the stage which arises to help us by pulling out us from the comfort zone which is gifting us Stagnancy.
If we want to attain success then first of all we have to face our fears and we have to overcome from it and that is because, our fears are real obstacles which always stand like hurdles in our path to stop us.
Of course, when the values and priorities imposed by the society take their place, and the personality achieves self-awareness then growth begins. @automation@banjo@cleverbot,
I fight this daily in weight loss coaching. I'm normally working with morbidly obese women. I lose them to the Big Beautiful Woman (BBW) movement. This is where you love yourself at every size and forget about the health risks, the bullying, the inability to find clothes, and the fear of breaking chairs if you sit on them.
It's much more appealing to pretend everything is ok than to work on fixing the actual problem.
My question is: Why should we always be motivated? Why do we always have to be happy? Where in the manual of our lives does it say that we cannot feel unhappiness, sadness, unwillingness? I doubt that our ancestors knew or read about self-help and many of them lived almost one hundred healthy and happy years. Nor have I seen that children have to be taught self-help classes because they laugh, they embrace, they are happy. We adults are the ones who problematize everyone, the ones who are unhappy even because of the weather. It has been in our time when everything is taken for a profit and some have seen how to make money by playing with the feelings of others. I believe in the power of words, of hugs, but that's chemistry, that's another thing. It seems ironic that in this age when there is more knowledge of self-knowledge, there is more suicide. People have to learn to love each other, to accept each other, but you don't learn that in a manual or in a weekend workshop. That's an activity with yourself on a daily basis. It's always good to read to you, @rok-sivante!
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God you are smart Rok. This is so true I am almost humbled by the wisdom on display.
First thing about personal development though is that is begins inwards. Nothing wrong with seeking outside assistance, but we have to 'conquer' ourselves first
Well, at least my former self was, given this is over 7 years old... lol. :-)
I used to hand out life advice and tried to solve people's problems for them. Of course it never worked. Then someone told me, "You can't solve people's problems. Everyone knows the solutions to their problems, they just don't want to do them." So now when someone has an issue I just nod my head and pretend to listen, which is what they really wanted in the first place.
That’s wisdom right there. ;-)
Well written, I've been going through many positive changes recently but they were the result of years of work and development. One of the best decisions I ever made was giving up pharmaceuticals as well as marijuana, both of which made my depression and anxiety worse. As you said, confronting the reality of why these negative thoughts pop up in my head and painfully tracing them back to their origin helped to properly frame them so I can act accordingly. They didn't necessarily go away, but now when they show up I have the power to tell those thoughts to fuck off and go about my business and continuing my growth.
@rok-sivante, Yes, Personal Development is really vital but for sure it's not an course and something related to the Schedule, instead it's related to our pursuing of thoughts and discipline, specially the study of inner world.
Yes, still people depend upon others when it comes to their improvement and development, but it's our job and we have to concentrate upon that and we have to improve ourselves through the Self Introspection.
Yes, the most negative point which follows by people is, they need easy path and they sometimes don't want to put efforts to improve in life, and this approach inturn will going to push us towards undeveloped situations.
We read life in an negative way that's why we face more pain and that means, if we face any issue then we will thing like, this should not happen to me, and we try to run from it, but this is the stage which arises to help us by pulling out us from the comfort zone which is gifting us Stagnancy.
If we want to attain success then first of all we have to face our fears and we have to overcome from it and that is because, our fears are real obstacles which always stand like hurdles in our path to stop us.
Wishing you an great day and stay blessed. 🙂
Of course, when the values and priorities imposed by the society take their place, and the personality achieves self-awareness then growth begins. @automation @banjo @cleverbot,
But you've never heard my voice before.
I fight this daily in weight loss coaching. I'm normally working with morbidly obese women. I lose them to the Big Beautiful Woman (BBW) movement. This is where you love yourself at every size and forget about the health risks, the bullying, the inability to find clothes, and the fear of breaking chairs if you sit on them.
It's much more appealing to pretend everything is ok than to work on fixing the actual problem.
I remember a saying "the winner never quit. The quiter never win" we stop learning we stop growing.
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It takes courage to seek help. It takes even more courage to help yourself (but it is so much more worth it).
amazing ... pleasant experience.