How to Make Your Bedroom Wishes Come True
The context discusses discovering your own body through self exploration using a vibrator and lube. It encourages experimenting with different stimulation techniques to better understand your body's responses. It also talks about questioning established sexual boundaries and whether they truly reflect your own preferences or were influenced by others. Finally, it provides tips on how to openly discuss intimacy with partners and surprise them with special moments to keep a relationship passionate.
Whether you've been with your partner for a long time or just started a new relationship, it's totally normal to daydream about changing things up in bed once in a while. Maybe you imagine scenarios where your partner does something unexpected, or you wonder about trying out a different type of pleasure item together. Odds are, your partner has similar thoughts at times.
However, it's one thing to dream about spicing up your intimate life and another to discuss it openly and achieve your desires. Here are some simple tips to help you get where you want to be.
Get Comfortable Talking About (and Requesting) Intimacy
You can't avoid the fact that you need to be comfortable discussing intimacy, especially with your partner. No matter how intuitive and attentive they are, they can't read your mind, and subtle hints will only take you so far. Everyone starts somewhere.
Some people find it easier to speak up in the heat of the moment. If that's you, take advantage of those passionate times when you really want your partner to do something specific. It'll be easier for you, and they'll likely be eager to comply.
Afterward, express how good it felt, listen to their response, and continue the conversation. Share some ideas you'd love to try or mention things you already enjoy and want more of. Encourage your partner to share their thoughts, too. Don't worry if it feels a bit awkward initially; practice makes perfect.
Discover Your Own Body Better
Everyone engages in self-pleasure from time to time – men and women, whether single or in relationships. However, for many, it's just about satisfying a familiar urge occasionally. Try turning your next solo session into a delightful self-discovery experience and see what unfolds. If you don't already have one, treat yourself to a vibrator and some high-quality lubricant. Then, set aside an afternoon or evening to thoroughly explore your body.
Experiment by using the vibrator across various areas and favorite spots to observe their responses. Explore different ways to stimulate yourself and take note of the techniques that lead to the most satisfying experiences. The more you understand how your body reacts to touch and various stimulation, the better your partner can follow suit with your guidance.
Rethink Some of Your Boundaries
Having sexual boundaries is completely normal. Knowing your limits and discussing them with your partner are crucial aspects of your ongoing sexual journey. However, it's worthwhile to question why you have the boundaries you've set. Many people adopt boundaries because their friends claim to have them or because someone, at some point, said certain things were wrong.
In simpler terms, ensure that your boundaries are genuinely yours. It's okay to have more conventional "vanilla" preferences and to enjoy what you like. However, make sure you're not missing out on something you might enjoy due to concerns about judgment. Trying something new and out of your usual repertoire can sometimes be rewarding.
Occasionally, Go All Out
You don't have to wait for your anniversary or Valentine's Day to go all out for yourself and your partner. While those special days should be celebrated to the fullest, surprising someone with a special dessert or a romantic bedroom adventure on a random Tuesday can be just as delightful. Your relationship, both inside and outside the bedroom, is what you make of it, so celebrate it enthusiastically and frequently.
Consider establishing traditions like regular date nights, naked Sundays, or staycation weekends. Create a fantasy box and take turns adding new ideas to it, selecting a couple to try whenever you're in the mood for something different. Subscribe to a sexy couple's box to ensure a steady supply of fresh toys and accessories for experimentation.
Getting what you truly desire in bed (and helping your partner do the same) is entirely achievable. However, it involves a process of getting into the right mindset. So, take the first step today and see where it leads you!