Attachments = Holes = No Happiness
We are full of holes
We move about with these holes
We are acquainted with desires
We are acquainted with wishes
But we are never consciously aware of these holes
Forgetting that the presence of wishes and wants is the presence of holes.
Sigh
We depend our values on things and people
We have forgotten our real nature
We have neglected our real nature by identifying our values with dependence on people and things
And when these people and things are no longer in our life
We don’t feel like we have lost these things or people
We feel that we are losing whatever is feeling this hole.
When we get attached to a thing or a goal or someone, we allow certain feelings tell us that “if I don’t have that, I won’t be whole.”
Therefore we create a hole in us.
Sigh!
We think these things and people are the ones responsible for our fulfillments, this could be love, strength, comfort or happiness.
When what is actually responsible is our true self, our unique self.
Let go of attachments!
Do not let things, people or desired outcomes define who you are
Do not let things or people get attached to your identity
Do not let your happiness be dependent on people or things, as living as your true self is the only real source of security, because when you start living a life of happiness that starts from an internal place rather than depending your happiness on external conditions, then you have truly recognized that you are still you and you remains you without any descriptors whatsoever.
Great that you mention the 'issue' with goals. For many this seems difficult to grasp, for they think that without goals there is no purpose in life. So I am especially referring to thought-made goals following a specific roadmap. By creating a goal we imply lack, something we don't have yet, and only once we have it we think we are 'whole'. Yet even this is an illusion, for once we have it, the insatiable needs new goals to feed its everlasting discontent..:)
I so much agree as your contribution completed the article!
It’s so easy to get controlled by the illusion as too many people are victims of it, that’s why it’s so important to learn to detach and secure the happiness from within no matter what