THINGS TO DO IF YOU WANT TO KEEP YOUR LOVE STRONG (PART 2)

In my previous post i listed two areas that can improve our love life as a couples. And i stopped by listing barriers to planning together. And on this post i am going to continue on the same topic, and barrier of planning together.

BARRIERS OF PLANNING TOGETHER AS A COUPLES

1. DIFFERENT GOALS
   There is no way a couple with different goals that find it difficult to ammonize their differences will not have problems with planning together. Accordingly, couples should work towards resolving their differences.

1. EXTERNAL INFLUENCE
   External influence could make good planning difficult for any couple. It follows therefore that couples should trust one another, be each other's friends and confidant so that together, they can resist harmful external influences.

2. EXISTENCE OF CONJUGAL DENIAL:- From several counseling sessions with couples, both with and outside ministry, we have discovered that denial of conjugal rights can negatively impact couples when they sit down to plan together. Most times, one of the two will not just be interested in any plan. Couples must embrace God's wisdom and follow biblical injunction on this matter by not denying themselves of their sexual except by mutual agreement.

3. IMPATIENCE:- It takes patience to sit together for hours planning. Where one or both partners are impatient, planning together will be difficult. Dearly beloved, please exercise patience with your partner. He or she is not your son or daughter that you can just dictate to. Also, recognize that your partner is not your subordinate in the office. Endeavour to treat one another with courtesy and love.

4. SHOUTING/ SNUBBING TENDENCIES
   There is no one that will be comfortable sitting down to plan with someone who treat him or he in a bad way. Love requires more than that if it is going to be sustained. Please, dont shout on each other. Also, dont snub your partner.

5. GENERAL LACK OF CONCERN FOR ONE ANOTHER.
   Having time to plan together as a couples will be very easy where there is reciprocal show of concern for one another. Please dont take your partner for granted. Let him or her know that he or she is valued.

Another thing you must do to keep your love life strong as a couple are:-

(i) ATTEND SERVICES TOGETHER
Attending services together will not only embrace closeness, but also attract God's ever binding grace and favour to your home. Hearing the same word of God and fellowship together will no doubt strengthen the existing love between you. The relevance of attending service together is so much that David declared in Psalm 122:1,

I was glad when they said unto me, let is go into the house of the LORD.

Just like planning, there are so many reasons why couples dont attend services together. Whereas some of the reasons are unintentional and unavoidable, there are so many cases where it is just a product of carelessness, lack of love for God, improper planning, poor time management, impatience, hatred for truth, rebellion etc.

Beloved, it is better to do everything within your power to ensure that your family attends services together. In extreme cases where it seems difficult especially because of difference in working hours, still do your best to have fellowship together tue moment you come back home.

(ii) SLEEP, EAT, AND PLAY TOGETHER
As much as possible, couples who want their love to last forever should work towards doing virtually everything together. Remember what the Bible says in Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

So if they are one, there should be no division.

Couples who do things together hardly have any basis for suspicion. Also, they hardly keep malice because they easily resolve their differences. It is good to note that playing together will not only refresh your love but also promote happiness. In Genesis 26:8, we read in the story of Isaac and Rebekah

And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a widow, and saw and behold Isaac was sporting with rebekah his wife.

The word sporting in that text means to play together. Endeavour to play together always as a couple and you will never cease loving each other.

GOD BLESS YOU, SERIES CONTINUES ON MY NEXT POST.