REKINDLING THE LOVE❤❤

Hello beautiful people. Hope you all are doing amazingly well. Continuing from last week's topic, Recovering your first love, i'll be talking more about how love,especially in relationships, can be renewed. I hope you all will get one or two things to hold on to as you read on. Thank you.

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Like I said, recovering or renewing means to make something as good as new, or restoring something to an original condition. One can restore books, houses, cars, cloths from its old self to an original one.

But here, we are talking about how to renew ones first love in relationships. The dictionary meaning of love is, having strong affection or tender feeling for someone. Thats ofcourse what happens at the initial stage of starting a relationship. The love between the couple is always very, sweet, strong and tender. But how many lasts??? Thats a question to really ponder on.

I remember sharing a story of a couple that, before they got married, when the hits her leg on something, the husband will be running around looking for how to treat her leg, but after marriage, he starts asking are questions like? "Can't you see?" So funny but terrible. What happened to the running around back then? Hmmmm

I highlighted few things that causes the love to go down in marriages so I'm going to do some explanation about them.

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•Bad perspective about marriage

First of all, couples need to understand their own duties separately. The husband should know that his duties are to love his wife unconditionally, take care of the financial aspects of the home(food, clothing, shelter, etc) and do all his manly responsibilities as a husband. The wife also should know that her duties are to honour and respect her husband, take care of the home, cook and assist the husband in whatever capacity. There are many more duties anyway,but lets keep it there.

If couples can be able to differentiate their different responsibilities, there will be little or no issues in the home. Its these little issues that reduces love among couples. Lets take note.

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•Bad attitude to Sex

God himself created sex and its to be enjoyed. But when couples begin to deny themselves of sex, it becomes a sin because the bible says, the body of a man belongs to his wife and the man also has right over the body of his own wife. There could be cases of stress,but it should be understandable between the both of the. But when constant avoidance sets it, problem sets in and that can put off or lower the fire of the love between them.

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•Not taking divorce serious

As children of God, divorce is unaccepted. Its clearly stated in the bible

For I hate divorce! says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

Mal 2:16
When a man doesn't see divorce as any serious thing but the wife does, there will sure be frustrations in the home and that is why our backgrounds needs to be checked. Its true we don't come from the same backgrounds, but the bible is one.

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•Poor physical appearance

This is common to the ladies. Before marriage, ladies always dress the best when the fiancèe comes visiting or when they go anywhere around their husband-to-be. Always keeping everywhere neat and uptight. But after marriage, they believe the husband already have them and they are already hooked and then starts to dress anyhow, tie wrapper around the body, chew sticks, not having their bath early enough and so on and so forth. This kind of attitude is always a turn-off for men. I'm sure men will agree with me on this. Ladies and Men also, should learn to keep themselves up to standard even before and after marriage.

How I wish I find lots of people to read this or I'm able to do a voice note for people to listen and feel how I feel about this issue. Its real and it happens everyday. Lets know that If we do all of these things mentioned above, our love in relationships will grow stronger and forward, and not get weakened and backwards. I still have more things to share on this topic. Please do check my blog for more. God bless you.

...to be continued

Thanks so much for reading...
Till I come your way next time...
I remain your sugar lovey dovey @oredebby