Hi @ankapolo, thank you for this post, it's comforting in a sense to know I'm not alone. What you describe here is exactly me experience when I was introduced to a Discord server by a very well meaning Steemian. For me it was like walking into a gambling venue full of machines with flashing lights and alerts sounding everywhere. There were about 20 or more channels, way too many for a newbie really, and there seemed to be a constant stream of chat going. I was completely overwhelmed. Despite my efforts to get involved I soon became weary. I felt obligated to participate but having a 5 day a week 9-5 and a young family means my time is precious and I have precious little time for Steemit and my music as it is.
I wish I had an answer but in all honesty I don't. A smaller server with only a dozen or so members and clear and simple daily goals or lessons may have helped? Thanks again for starting this discussion!
Cheers, Trevor