If you are scared of bullies, they're going to get you! Let us stop the abuse!
One of the new students in our class is a total bully. Weird thing is that he was transferred to our school, because he was a victim of bullying at the previous school. I don't know this student very well, but I am hoping that it is only a phase that he is going through to be noticed. He constantly tries and take over conversations and he shouts out all the answers when my teacher asks a question. This irritates most of the students and because this student is trying to gain attention he is in fact just pushing away all of his potential friends.
I feel sorry for him. I've tried talking to him a few times and he seems a little shy to open up, but I am not going to stop trying. I know that he is not a bad person so I am going to try and make friends with him so that others can see him differently.
Why do people become bullies?
Many people who become bullies are people who have been bullied themselves. They have such low self worth and they think that they have to force themselves on others to make them notice them. Sometimes bullies are just spoiled people that always get their way. Often bullies do not know how to behave differently because they behave like their parents. We learn from what we see around us and because we live in such a sick world today, people grow up in broken homes where they are in constant contact with fighting because adults can sometimes be very cruel to each other. Remember that girls can also become bullies and they can often be even worse than boys.
How I think bullies feel
I think bullies like getting their own way, but deep down they feel unhappy because they know that people do not actually like them. Bullies try to put all the bad feelings they have about themselves onto other people. They don't have real friends and they often team up with other bullies. Sometimes someone becomes a bully to prove themselves to others because they want to be part of a group and they often do things that they don't really want to do.
How do bullies get what they want?
Bullies focus on the fear of their victims. They can do this in so many ways. They can threaten their victim with violence and scare them by sayings things like " I'll beat you up or I'll get my brother to come get you!"
What can we do to stand up against bullies?
Once you give in to a bully, they will constantly be back. If they manipulate you once, the chances are that you are going to become a full-time victim. If you are hit by a bully ( and they are not too big) fight back! Bullies are usually cowards and they don't like to get some of their own medication. Be confident and tell them off. If you are bullied it is important to tell a parent or a teacher so that they can help you in this situation. Teachers often do not know that someone is a bully as they act totally different in front of older people or teachers. TELL SOMEONE!
I am not scared of bullies and neither should you be scared!
It is time that we stand up against the violence and abuse. It is time that we say NO to bullying. When we all stand up against bullies and show them that we are no longer scared the violence might stop. You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be a victim. Stop trying to please others and start standing up for yourself and don't allow yourself to be bullied anymore.
Today I urge all parents to teach their children not to be afraid. Teach them to stand up for themselves and let them be the person they were intended to be. Do not expect your child to live out your own dreams and teach your child to recognize the signs of bullying. Look out for the signs and make sure your own child is not a bully.
Are you a victim of bullying?
Thanks for the post. These are some great insights.
My wife is an elementary school teacher, and occasionally she has to deal with these issues. I would say that the later in life this happens, the harder it is for teachers and other authority figures to detect. This means that speaking up and telling someone becomes more important the older children get. You've made an excellent point.
Bullies' motivations can be a wide variety of things, but it comes down to how we should respect each other and our differences. Hopefully teachers everywhere can continue to fight against bullying, and posts like these can help everyone else learn how to stand up to bullying. Thanks for sharing.
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Very nice post agree totally, thank you for sharing
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