DEVELOPING A CHILD'S SELF-ESTEEM

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A shy adult is a product of being unable to gain the confidence during his early years. Having this kind of attitude is unhealthy because it will cause more problems in the future. The real battle is not in the home, classroom, and playground. It starts outside his comfort zone, the day when he is grown up and has to look for a job. Just imagine, a lively applicant is more likely to be hired than a timid one and an employee with too much personality to offer is more likely to be promoted than a quiet and almost invisible guy.

We don’t want our children to suffer these situations. Life will always be hard and it is the parent’s duty to make sure that his child is ready enough to face every storm. Time will come when we are no longer on their side and before it happens; we must train them to believe in their abilities and capabilities. Even though we can’t promise that everything will fall in their perfect places, we can still let them realize that they possess the fortitude needed to survive in the middle of imperfections.

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Give him the freedom to finish the task.

There’s nothing wrong to be an over-protective guardian as long as it doesn’t interfere with his independence. We can guide him in solving math homework but never do the whole process to the point that you’ve answered all of it and nothing was left to the child.

Others might think that the kid was able to save energy but little did we know that it’s very dangerous. We are teaching him to be lazy and irresponsible. It will also give an impact on his mind that he is not good enough to accomplish even a simple thing.

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Involve him in doing the household chores.

You can let him do either the sweeping on the floor or washing the dishes. Tell him the importance of cleaning specially to his own bedroom. Explain that a bedroom reflects what kind of person is sleeping there and he doesn’t want to be known as someone living in a mess.

It is a good way of giving him the feeling that you trust his leadership. It will certainly boost his morale because he knows that he is worthy to be trusted and be a leader as well. Remember, a child is happy when he is treated seriously just like what matured individuals are doing to each other.

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Share the sorrows and celebrate the achievements.

When your child failed in exams, comfort him instead of shouting and showing your disappointment. You can give him warm hugs and kisses just to remind that you will always love him unconditionally. Have a heart-to-heart conversation; encourage him to speak out his troubles and burdens.

On the other hand, praise him if he succeeded on something whether it is small or big events. But be careful in giving a praise because we must be realistic. If you know that he is not really good in arts, give a credit on his effort and never tell sugar-coated words to hide the truth. We don’t want our children to be pressure in a craft which not his passion.

Be a role model to your children as much as you can. Before you can teach them, you must teach yourself first. It is necessary specifically when he knows that both of his parents are confident in what they are doing. It is good to see that the father has the reasonable authority on the way he talks and the way he delivers every decision in the house. On the contrary, the mother is expected to be the support system so she must be calm but firm in giving her suggestions and opinions.

A child is like a sponge, he can easily absorb the things around him.

Building up a self-esteem doesn’t happen in just a single day, it is a process.