How to Help Children to be more Sociable

mila-escobar85 (45)in #steemiteducation • 6 years ago (edited)

Greetings my dear community of steemiteducation, today I want to talk to you about a topic that is very common in many families, more than what people usually think and often we do not know how to face. It is about children who are not sociable and sometimes aggressive towards others.

According to studies carried out, it has been determined that there is a high number of children who have problems to socialize and interact with the people around them. Each child has a different type of character and temperament, which will determine their behavior and how to respond to different situations.

The first thing that parents must do is to observe to the children carefully in order to determine their type of temperament and thus ensure that they have a standard behavior. I

In the event that the child has difficulty relating, as parents we must accept that our child has a special condition and to facilitate its development, we must guide and help you to share and interact with other children, without scolding, or insults, or reproaches about his asocial behavior.

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This is where our arduous task begins, once the child's diagnosis is made and the reason for his behavior is understood, we must become his helping hand, his support, specialists in cognitive-behavioral behavior modification techniques, in order to help them Improve your relationship with others.

We must be constant in the teaching of good deeds and look for the educational tools and strategies according to the children's temperament. It is important to be aware that this will help them to improve their personality and behavior but not to change totally. We must also consider that all children are different, and that not all socialize in the same way or at the same pace, for this reason we must go slowly, give them the time they need and be very patient. It is important to mention that children tend to imitate the behaviors of their parents, for this reason, if you want your child to be sociable and have many friends, then he should see that you are a very nice and sociable person.
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Next I will mention the types of children's temperaments which will help us to know what the child's behavior will be like to later indicate which strategies we should apply with each child.

These classify children into:

Easy Temperament Children:

They are serene, cheerful and usually have a very positive mood, have good humor, easily adapt to new situations, are willing to experience new experiences and adapt well to changes in routines.

Combative Children:

They are children who are characterized by being whiny, somewhat irritable and are disturbed by everything. They find it hard to adapt to any change. These children show many their emotions.

Slowly Adapting Children:

They are reserved children who find it difficult to cope with new situations, do not adapt very well to changes, require more time to get used to new experiences. They are a little shy and very attached to their parents. They are usually quite passive and somewhat slow.

Active Children:

They are very restless children, they like to move, jump and run, they do not stay calm, except when they sleep. They are always aware of everything, talking, asking or playing. His character can either be docile or combative. These children need to do a lot of physical activity according to their age, their development and above all their interests to "burn their energy".

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Strategies that we should apply according to their temperament

Once the child's personality is identified, we must apply the following strategies:

In children of easy temperament:

Praise the child frequently, and when he deserves it.
Praise the appropriate actions instead of reproach the inappropriate ones.
Talk to them to listen to their opinions and stimulate communication with them.
Provide a positive example to reinforce confidence in the child.

In combative children:

Teach them to control their anger and impulses.
Give the child confidence so that he feels safe.
Let's develop your independence.
Do not criticize our children in front of other people.
Teach the child to express their feelings with words, before losing control.
Set effective rules, according to the age of the child.

In children of slow adaptation:

Dedicate time and provide the attention they need.
Be very patient with them.
Help the child to overcome situations, not solve them.
Do not label the child.

In active children:

Plan fun activities to channel your energy
Establish habits and routines, much organization and planning
Let's find extracurricular activities that you like.
Make any manifestation of affection for how well you have acted.

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Recommendations to Promote the Socialization of Children

Being a father does not bring an instruction manual; it is something that is learned every day from the interaction and sharing with our children, our communication and the time we dedicate it.

This will help the child develop during his childhood and to the subsequent development of his character and his qualities, which allows him to relate to other children with total normality. Love your child regardless of conditions, hug him, accompany him, advise him and above all, be his example to follow.

Here are several tips for your children to practice social skills and share happily with other children:

Brindale the opportunity to interact: Organize activities where your child can share with children their age. (Pajamas, meals, sharing).
Enroll it in a sport, where they can practice as a team. (Soccer, baseball, tennis, bales). This allows them to burn the energies, improve their physical conditions, and most importantly learn to work in a team and how to be part of it.
Take it to the park, a birthday party, where you can interact with other people, see how others act and interact with them.