What does it depend on your child to succeed in life?

Whether or not your children succeed in life will depend on their confidence in themselves and their abilities. If you are going to enter a school or an international university, all this is secondary. Chemistry, physics and other school subjects in the future may simply not be useful to him. The main thing is that the child must know its own value and strive to obtain more and not insist on what has been achieved.

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How to understand what kind of self-esteem your child has

Low self-esteem

SourceDoes your child constantly complain that his partner is smarter, prettier and better dressed? The constant crying, the fear of punishment, the expectation of the worst, the insecurity in one's own strength, all these are the first signs of low self-esteem.

If you do not take any steps, in the future the child will feel offended in the classroom, will not be able to adapt to any, not even the smallest changes in life. Unfortunately, if you decide to try your luck elsewhere and withdraw it from school (or transfer it to another class), the situation will not change. The child initially tunes into failure, repeating to himself "I can not learn", "I will not solve this problem", "I am a loser", etc.

Overestimated self-esteem

SourceIn general, children with high self-esteem believe that they are always right in everything. At the same time, your child may argue that the low grade in a job is not his lack of attention, but the teacher's. The child is not used to realizing his mistakes, there is no authority for him. Often, he respects neither parents nor teachers or authorities. A small man tries to subordinate everyone to himself. Use the weaknesses, desires, aspirations of other people, trying to stand out in the context of other people's failures.

In general, these children are ringleaders, aggressors and quite brutal leaders in the future. "I know better", "You will not get it, but I can do it" - at the beginning, an initiative of the child touches the parents. And, unfortunately, caring mothers and fathers realize too late that they raised a tyrant.

Adequate self-esteem

SourceSuch a child is not afraid to ask for help, because he understands that it is impossible to know everything and be able to do it. In the first failure, do not lower your hands and do not swim with the flow, but at first try to solve everything with your own effort. He knows he is loved and appreciated, therefore he is not afraid to look weak. The child never changes his responsibilities over others. After helping someone, the student will not ask for something in return.

If your child has adequate self-esteem, he will not play with nerves, demand special treatment from friends, relatives or acquaintances, or seek benefits. He accepts people as they are. Moderately self-confident people in the future are much easier in life, since they never feel cheated by friends, family work. They really look at things.

Be careful, low self-esteem!

There are many ways in which you can raise a child's self-esteem and raise a self-reliant person. And the sooner you start acting, the greater the probability of getting a good positive result.

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How to praise children appropriately

Regardless of age, status and sex, a person needs praise. Having said the right words, approving this or that act, will consolidate the good habits of your child. If you stop praising, for example, the excellent grades, cleaning the room on time or washed dishes, the child will soon lose interest in it. Do not take such actions as something natural.

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Receptions to increase self-esteem

• It's recommended When making any decision, always ask the child for advice. This will help you understand its importance and raise your self-esteem. However, in this case there is one but! Even if your opinion differs from the baby's wishes, try to follow its recommendations. Otherwise, the effect of this technique will be completely opposite: you will develop a lot of complexes and fears. And next time you will simply be afraid to express your thoughts.
  
  
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• Ask for help Your child can help you perfectly handle perfectly with a broken stool, and your daughter, something like a broken button on her blouse. Do not try to do everything yourself, ask for help from your children. At the same time, treat your child as an equal and do not demand immediate compliance with their whims. Duties (clean, wash dishes, clean potatoes): it is completely different, the youngest members of your family must act without question.
  
  
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• It represents weakness Having put everything into oneself, parents raise overprotected children. In the future, when they become adults, many of them can not even cook soup. And this without mentioning more serious tasks. Any work will cause discouragement. After all, before they did everything for them: grandmothers, mothers, friends. In adult life, people should be able to respond on their own.
  
  
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  You can ask to take care of the sick relative, go to the store and buy everything you need. More adult children can pay bills, send emails, walk with a dog. The older the child is, the more he must help his parents. Of course, blaming him for all the care of the house is not the idea either.

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