Do not live lavishly, nothing to start.

I once met a scientific article, the author of which in a popular language expressed the idea that the strategies of behavior of our family strongly affect our behavior. At the same time, we often do not realize that some strategies do exist and affect something. Especially effective, according to research, we are influenced by the financial strategies of mothers and fathers, as well as previous generations.

Even if you did not go to a psychotherapist with these questions and did not deal with a specialist, you can still track family financial strategies at least on those Proverbs and sayings that were in use or are now used in your family.

So, I think, of course, I know how to make money, I just do not have enough of them and they always go somewhere. And at the most unexpected moment. At the same time I had a fairly ordinary Soviet family, probably with average income. What deep strategies and tactics of handling money were hidden in my family, I never had a thought and here it came.

Father at the same time ceased to be a war, but, unlike other demobilized officers, being a perennial stupor, and quickly retrained from a surgeon to a chiropractor. That is, in my family the ability to adapt to new circumstances is quite high. The mother was accompanied by this proverb "necessity is the mother of invention". That is still a goal. And if the goal, then we will always live and survive. And in General, life in the understanding of my family — something unstable, it should always be a force majeure. And we will overcome it.

When you manage to earn a large amount of money, the "spring effect" works. The money starts to frantically spend money

This is illustrated by a joke that the family POPs up in a variety of conversations about once a month, for many years. "The Armenian radio is asked: where to find a toilet during the nuclear war? The Armenian radio says: "you find your ass first."

How does this happen in our family? For example, I call my mom and ask if she wants to go to a concert (go to the sea with me / go to the shopping center / go to visit). In response, mom laughs and says, "I have to find my ass first." This means that force majeure continues and nothing can be allowed again. Although in fact, of course, you can. I also catch myself on the fact that suddenly time — and the answer to someone this anecdote, implying that now is not the time to do something for yourself.

When you manage to earn a large amount of money — usually it happens after a long period of savings (we call it "tighten the straps") — triggered "spring effect". Money starts to spend feverishly, quickly and unwisely. We have a saying at home about it, "walk, jerk." So it turns out we're a jerk. And when there is no money, which, frankly, is often "in the pocket of a louse on the ark", and in the refrigerator" the mouse hung itself". And we "goals as falcons".

On the one hand, the worldview determines the content of Proverbs, on the other hand, Proverbs affect the worldview of people

I was wondering what about the poor Proverbs in the other families. I'm asking a friend if she has something like that.

"And how, — answers. - For example, there was money, and then, of course, ended. You know what they say? "We do not live lavishly, there is nothing to start." That is, in a normal state, we are poor, and it is better to accept this fact immediately, so that when the money runs out again, do not worry. It, without thinking, sentence several generations of our family. Or my friend took the whole family to the sea. And not only his wife and children — even paid for the guy's oldest daughter and the girl older son. Total seven people, and it is terrible to imagine how much it cost him. At our house they said about it: "the rich have their quirks." That is, we are poor and we do not understand them, the rich. In such cases, my mother says: "well-Fed hungry does not understand." Without thinking, she considers herself to be hungry, that is, poor."

I was able to find another proof that the Proverbs adopted in the family and the truth there is nothing accidental. Let me quote you a scientific article: "between the worldview and Proverbs bilateral relationship. On the one hand, the worldview determines the content of Proverbs, on the other hand, Proverbs affect the worldview of people." In short, in simple terms, these family Proverbs are, first, the experience of past generations, and secondly, our psychological or worldview for the future, our program.

That is, saying:" we did not live richly, there is nothing to start " — we are going to be poor in the future. But I could not find an answer to the question of how to change this family, laid down for centuries program.