Grief and it's 5 Phases : An Explanation with a Model

timesedge (49)in #writing • 6 years ago (edited)

Loosing someone or something is the bitter truth of life. It effects not only the one suffering from it but everyone and everything related to it. It has that strong ability to change life's right from the beginning till the end. Every person who is living or dead has somehow dealt with this cruel face of life, he must have lost something important and meaningful to him which he never thought of losing at any cost in life. Universe is sometimes unfair to us!

Once you lose something there comes a phase of grief and it's perfectly normal to grieve on a loss. In fact, it's always good to grieve on your loss as it helps to spit the sadness out of your heart and move on. At the day end its impotant to move on from every grey phase of your life. Everyone grieves differently. Also, If we ever let our past govern our lives, we would have never been able to move forward with our lifes and discover what future holds for us.

Loss and than grief get together and change your life sometimes in a good way otherwise, it can be very destructive as well. I also realize that loss is difficult and life-changing, in fact I am no stranger to it. But to move on is the key.

Losing something can easily demotivate an individual and he/she might give up on their life. Loss effects social society and individual behaviors as well. It's just like a never-ending darkness that slowly consumes you, leaving behind only a husk.

Kübler-Ross model of Grief

According to this model, there are five stages of grief:

Denial

Human nature is sometimes unadoptable. It denies the facts and pushes the mind towards positivity. It Never focuses on negative things, specially when it's related to his own identity. When suddenly a happiest dream gets burst by a shop needle of life, it natural not to believe and go into the denial phase.

Anger

A very common question that comes in our mind after any loss is "Why me?" And this drives us crazy in anger. That's the second phase of denial as per the theory. Blame is a big part of this stage.

Bargaining

Bargaining with thoughts, faith and life is another part where we assume stuff, focusing on "What if..." and that slowly becomes an obsession where we start to dwell different scenarios where we could've been happy.

Depression

The hardest stage to overcome is depression. It makes us feel empty and becomes embedded into our core and leave us demotivated. As a result, we feel depressed and unable to move on.

Acceptance

Though it takes time, as the time is the best healer, but acceptance is the key towards a happy life. One has to make peace with their loss and move on and it's important be to move on as it's the permanent reality of life.

Imagine a World Without Grief

A world without grief is only possible if we have a control on our memories and we can easily edit or modify them whenever we want.

I believe a greif less world will be like a sun without sunshine. Ups and downs are the part of life it makes us thankful to the blessings we have and Ensure us that we are alive because a dead person cannot feel greif of happiness. These situations in life help us to live and appreciate life.

Be thankful for whatever you have in life and live every moment you pass by.