I agree with you, it is necessary to love your life in spite of death, but a person tend to assume the worst. Imagine that a loved one does not come home at the proper time, and does not respond to phone calls. Nine out of ten people will assume the worst - something bad happened, since he can not even answer the call. And when a loved one finally appears and explains that he was busy, and the phone sat battery, we splash out on him a lot of emotions. How could he make us so nervous? A familiar situation? The fact that people often assume the worst, then to exhale with relief or take the inevitable is doomed and prepared. Death is no exception. We don't know what she's carrying, but we're already set for the worst outcome.