Keep in mind that what one woman perceives as positive pursuit, another views as harassment. As every woman has a different view of how far they want the man to go with regard to the initiation of contact, every man has to decide how far he is willing to push, and thus risk offending and irritating her. If you only go for those men who are in favour of pushing all the way, then you're going for the men who don't care about who it is they anger. Another word for these men? Jerks. The kind of rude and unconscientious individuals who will happily stomp on those around them so long as there's a vague possibility of their obtaining something. On the opposite extreme are the pushover guys, those who won't risk offending due to their unwillingness to risk angering anyone. Most guys fall somewhere in between. Depending on the extent that you want a pushover versus a jerk, you'll need to decide what it an acceptable level of pursuit. Another thing to consider however; if you're entirely in favour of allowing them to chase you endlessly then there's another term entirely for such men. Desperate. True, you ought to be with someone who clearly wants to be with you, but don't expect a man to continue to chase after you after receiving many negative signals. Such a man either has so constricted a social group as to be incapable of finding anyone else to be with, or has received such negative signals from others that he perceives your slightly negative signals as positive.