There are indeed two general poles that people vary between, both mothers and father. Not all parents are good, but CPS can get out of control in a lot of minor cases and overreach. I hate the ignorant saying of "mind your own business" because that not how morality and communities are supposed to work. If people were more concerned about morality and community protection of each other, we wouldn't need so much centralized authoritarianism in our lives... :/
Yeah, its a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. In my case it could have all been fixed so easily by someone just caring enough to look at what was going on. But like is pointed out, CPS in many ways exhibits the same behavior my birth mom did. So where do we get the answer in all of this?