Not Everyone Would Like You. Contributed by @Olawalium
There are some things way beyond our control. We all crave love and attention. We all feel on top of the world when we are loved and we could feel it, but the truth is not everyone would love it like you, no matter how much you force it or try. You need to have the courage to let things you can’t control go.
When some don’t feel loved, they crumble. They lash out. They lose every sense of worth and feel they are not good enough. Being rejected doesn’t have anything to do with personal attack sometimes. It might be about the other person who doesn’t like you, and not necessarily you (We have a different mood, attitude, and feelings). I am sure we are not designed to wake up every day looking for who to impress.
People might not like you for various reasons. It might be because you have a different value system, it might be because they don’t fancy your approach sometimes, it might be because there is no mutual ground, like there is nothing in common, in term of attitudes, hobbies, and it might even be based on competition. Of course, people choose different reasons why they don’t like another person but let them deal with the “hate” or “dislike” or indifference in their hearts and do not be bothered about trying to win them over to your side. Let them deal with the hate in their heart and do not harbour any for them, because the hate in your heart might consume you too.
You can create a good impression, but it doesn't necessarily translate into likeness.
When you feel a negative vibe from someone, find a common ground and seek peace, but after doing this and nothing changes, let it be. Don’t live your life trying to impress another person, whom you might still never win over in the long run.
The truth is, you cannot please everyone. One of the many roads to failure is when you try to please everyone. Always do whatever gives you a conscience clear enough to sleep at night.
Most of the times when we feel rejected or unloved, we seem to retreat or withdraw from other people’s loving hands. We feel we are inadequate. We fail to see those who really care about us and base our feelings on one person's opinion. We feel incomplete. We feel the need to change what is not broken. We are not perfect, yes, but you are not as broken as you feel you are. Don’t judge your life based on the unacceptability of another imperfect human being. Feel good about yourself on the inside.
To be continued...
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The truth is people reactions to you are just that, THIER reactions. They say that people create an opinion about you within seconds of seeing you for the very first time. Could someone know your value or whats in your heart and mind within seconds? They can't and they don't. People see the world through the lenses of their own lives, complete with trauma and failed expectations of their own. Still when our heart wants and yearns there's no logic that can explain why it's not returned. But regardless of others, there's a strength in loving yourself and if the only person who ever loves you, is you, then you'll be just fine. But other thing to remember is that a love and belief in yourself is projected as happiness and confidence. And there's nothing more attractive than that.
Oh my world! This is absolutely brilliant. What a comment. Thank you so much for this. I am definitely blessed by this and i sure learned. Gracias
Forcing something can sometimes make our hearts disappointed itself. Certainly also we who will be tired himself if we think just a way for everyone to like every thing we do.
It seems impossible everything will always go beautiful and fine. There must be pebbles and tests we must face. But by passing and overcoming all the tests, we will feel the joy of success and happiness. How ever we will need rain to get a rainbow. We need the dark to be able to enjoy the beautiful star stretch.
People's speech and demands will never end. Maybe you will also continue to be tired of all the things that people talk about you. But do not let all that make your heart hurt. Keep creating your baham with focus on the best things you can do.
There will be people who hurt and hate. But also certainly there will be people who will always love and be on the side. Just how do we respond to it all. And one of the best ways to be happy in this condition is to release those who hurt and fight for those who have been proven to be sincere.
We have our own way to be happy. There is always a path that we can take for our good. If you can make many people like you with the good you do, be grateful. But even if not everyone can like and respect you, still be grateful. Being grateful is the easiest way to get the blessings of everything we do.
Hahahaha it keeps getting better.
I really clicked with this. It is better to be respected than liked. People might like you and not respect you, but they don't have to like you to respect you. Do your talking with results.
Thanks a lot for this. Gracias.
Going by this assertion which i believe is really true and meant to actually be the fact. Since we cannot walk and expect our head not to move then we are bound to make mistakes, at the same time we are bound not to be loved by all, there will always be people who are meant to persecute you no matter how hard you try to make things right just like when Christ is on earth, some people love Him while others condemn Him.
If you are gotten to be loved by 50percent of the people around you then you are lucky because you can still get to win more heart through your generosity and doing things acceptable, but if you are waiting to be love by all then you are actually mistaken because no matter how hard you try it will never work.
We are bound to be hate whether by our behavior and set of mind, principles and opinions different from the people around us, the feeling of indifference will surely pose in. The desire to make peace with people should surely be our goal but not to the extent of getting hurt.
This is absolutely the key to whatever might be bothering us when it comes to dealing with People, once our heart is light then there isn't much to worry about. I learn more from this piece my brother.
Thanks a lot as always brother.
This is one of the hard fact not easily acceptable by men, we think we can be loved based on whether we are good or bad.
Let me disappoint you a bit, if you are good, not all would love you. If you are bad, not all woukd hate you, even if you are a monster, some people would still prefer you to the cool headed guy on the street. Hahahahha
Just don't worry about how others sees you, go ahead and do those things that's makes you happy.
Nobody is in possession of your happiness, you have key with you.
You don't have to try to make people love you. In fact they won't love you for trying...smile
Just be yourself and let those that love you love you for being who you are. No matter what, you can't be love by all.
Thank you @olawalium and @communitycoin
You made so much sense there and i totally love it. Yes, we shouldn't bother about how others see us, we should be more concerned how we see ourself and how good we feel about ourself. God didn't design us to wake up everyday to please another imperfect human. We are all a work in progress.
Thanks a lot bro
Your post are the best, you have all the reason in the world, I have always heard that phrase "we are not gold coin to please everyone." No matter how hard we try there will always be people who do not enter because of bad thoughts or for thousands of things, but it should not affect us because in life there are only two types of people, good and bad
Love this: "It should not affect us because in life, there are only two types of people; good and bad." and we are definitely not gold coin to please everyone. Thanks a lot for this. Really appreciate this, and your kind words.
This is deep truth. Not everyone will like us, and we won't like everyone either and it is based on choices and personalities. When we try to fit into other people's preferences, we are depriving ourselves of the life due to us. We can never feel fulfilled. We should indeed learn to let things we cannot control free. @olawalium this is nice. @communitycoin you are really kind.
Wow. Good one sir. Thank you for your kind words too. Always appreciated.
You are right bro. I laugh when I see people trying to impress everyone. It not possible for everybody to like you no matter how good you are. Just be yourself and satisfy your conscience
I love that: "Just be yourself and satisfy your conscience". Why should someone lose sleep because he or she is trying to win someone to his or her side? We are more than enough. We are good enough. Thanks a lot brother.
Every pen bleeds! Hahaha. This is a beautifully written piece. Not everyone will like you. Eventually one would have to find the one that they like and stay close. This is life. And it is ridden with diverse perspectives. You dont want to go about desiring to be loved. It is heart wrecking.
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Absolutely. We should always go to where we are celebrated rather than where we are tolerated. Not everyone would like us, as it is not everyone we would like too. Thanks a lot bro.
I think the worst thing you will do to yourself it's expect love in return once it's given out
I always advice my readers to leave a table where love is no longer served do something reasonable with your heart. I am also a relationship advicer check on me if you have time thanks
No I don't feel inadequate when I'm rejected cos I already know it ain't everyone gonna like me or my dids cos I also detest someone even if they've never did me anything wrong and I should be prepared to take such from someone too
When I feel unloved and tried to convince them but things seems unwell I stay away and find something to make myself feel better
Better. Make yourself feel better and never forget who you are. Thanks a lot bro.