RE: Struggling to Meet the Forgivemyself Challenge: I am already forgiven
I don't think you're mediocre! No one needs to be forgiven for not being perfect or not choosing the right path or things like that. The problem with humans is that we always feel guilty about things we shouldn't. We're imperfect beings, we fail, we cry, we made mistakes but we also laugh, we do good things, we learn from those mistakes. Feeling guilty for things you can't control is useless, it just screw you emotionally. Somewhere along the way someone told us that we needed to forgive ourselves for making mistakes or not being the best person we can and thats wrong. Why do we have to forgive ourselves for making mistakes or not being perfect? Is not like we do things knowing what holds the future!
I do believe in forgiveness, but why do we have to forgive ourselves for being humans? I believe in acknowledging, thats the proper way. I acknowledge that im not a perfect person and i don't try to be one either, I make mistakes that sometimes led to hurting myself or others, I dont need to forgive myself because I didn't do it in purpose, what I do need is to acknowledge what went wrong and learn from it. Thats the proper way, that when the real emotional healing comes. Otherwise its just you feeling miserable because you think you can't forgive yourself or you need to forgive yourself like if being human and do what humans do is a bad thing.
Left forgiveness for the times you knew you were doing something bad that could screw you or screw someone and did it anyway. Forgiveness is for those times, not because you're human and no one is perfect. Embrace yourself, be yourself, be proud of who you are! Acknowledge the things you don't like and change them if you want.
I agree with everything you said here. I think we have largely the same view, but using different terminology. That is a good point about forgiveness only being required if the act was intentional. For instance, I have a tendency to make my kids say they are sorry when they hurt each other by accident. It is good manners, but it is meaningless - there was nothing to forgive as it was simply a freak thing that caused the pain. I suppose the gray area lies actually in regret. For instance, when someone hurts you by accident and is deeply sorry, but you still can't let it go, that is regret over what happened. I do have regret about many things, and I agree with you - we all do. That's life. But I do not feel like I need forgiveness over any regrets. I suppose this comes down to how you define "forgiveness". Boy I'm picking this apart :)
Yep, that's my mantra. It is funny how tricky it can be to zero in on things that need change in the day-to-day. Procrastination of mind and body is strong within me.
That's the good thing about being human. You change if you want, if not then be who you are and be happy about it! Forgiveness is about mind freedom but people use it to enslave themselves. About the procrastination thing, I don't think you're doing it. Somehow the things you don't like about yourself found the way to work fine and its working properly otherwise you had change them long time ago! 😅
Hmm...interesting. I've always pegged myself as being a bit self-defeating, but maybe I am unconsciously working things out.
I need to go to sleep and have a talk with my subconscious. We need to hash this out.