Love is a verb - not a feeling
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I am going to blow your mind below just like how I got mine blown.
When someone asks you 'What is Love?'
An obvious response is 'Love is a feeling'
Here is an example for this:
A man walks upto Stephen Covey and tells him that he does not love his wife anymore. We have kids and house, everything is perfect but I just don't love her anymore, the feeling is not there like it used to be.
Stephen Covey replied 'Then love her'
The man replied back 'But how can I love her when I don't love her anymore.'
Stephen Covey replied 'Love her then, why don't you.'
The man replied 'I don't feel the love anymore, it is not there anymore like it used to be.'
Stephen Covey replied 'What is love? A feeling? No 'love is a verb' and the fruit of this verb is the 'Love the feeling'. Go to her, take her out, love her, help her, sacrifice for her, understand her, make her love - Perform the LOVE THE VERB and then LOVE THE FEELING would come as a fruit.'
I ask you, Does it make sense? Yes it does.
So what are you supposed to do if you feel you do not love your spouse anymore? the feeling is not there anymore?
Perform LOVE THE VERB- Go talk to them, understand them, make sacrifices, do what they like, put some efforts and then the LOVE THE FEELING would come as a fruit
Might take time but it would definitely work.
Now you may ask who is Stephen Covey?
He is writer of amazing book - 7 habits of highly effective people. The first habit is Proactiveness - I am reading and changing my mindset with the book. As part of the journey, I am supposed to share what I read and understood with someone within 48 hours to make things effective as a rock solid. So I did it.
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So true! My parents have been married for 41 years. They both will tell you they don't always like each other, but they always LOVE each other. Relationships are constant work, so I can totally see that love is action not just sitting around waiting for the butterflies to just come. I don't think I've ever read that book, but it might be time to add it to my reading list!
wow what a perfect example - Relationships are constant work and marriage is a good deal among two forgivers who are in love with each other. :)
The commitment, connection, sacrifice and attention DO bring the feeling. You are soooo spot on with this post!
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Glad you agree. I feel the work towards love does bring the feeling part. :)
We can't just sit around hoping love will continue to happen if there is nothing done towards making it grow. Love is all we have when we strip of all things.
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yeah nothing will happen without an action done for it
ahaha yeah it make's sense actually but I don't agree totally.
Love is a feeling, it might be a verb because you give an effort to make you feel that feeling again. That's why they said, "if you love a person you must show it." You might take action about it but still those feeling's can't be done by just an action. I often read some quotes, "no matter what you do if she/he doesn't love you, you must accept the fact the he/she won't love you."
It's just my own opinion, for some reason the writer was right but I just can't agree it.
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hmmm interesting comment.
I think it holds true for the cases where there was no two sided love at all - in the first place.
Thanks.
Really beautiful thoughts.
Thanks for sharing and greetings from Mexico.
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Something to think about. I don’t agree 100%, but depends on how you look at it. Great subject. 😊
Yeah it goes case to case but can surely do wonders in some cases
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I agree and have experienced this multiple times in my life where when I served and sacrificed for someone the love for them grew. Thanks for sharing.
Glad you could relate with real life in this
Interesting take on love being a verb. I'm not sure that going through the motions of love will actually make someone fall in love but in the case of a failing marriage it would be worth a try.
yeah it would work in some cases - specially when someone says the love was there but now it is not
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