There is one thing I agree with here and that is if no offence had been committed then no punishment is needed. Do I feel sorry that they must keep it to themselves? Hell no! Not when those who have been abused have to keep things to themselves, either out of shame (there is judgement even for them or people just aren't comfortable hearing it) or sometimes even because their abusers are still alive. Yes, the abused can seek psychological help, but not all can afford it.

Pedophiles know what isn't acceptable and people are supposed to be able to have some sort of control over themselves, it's what's supposed to separate us from animals.

My worry if we start to say that it's just something they need to be given help with, it sends the message that it's okay to have these feelings and ultimately they'll be forgiven for giving in to them.