RE: The power of the 'POST' button. @heartbeat1515 inspired by...
The best advice I have gotten is from my husband. Never post in anger. I had done that a few times on FB. It was a soon to be family member. I had no idea she had not taken her husband's name, so when I had sent out our wedding invitations she posted something along this line. ' Some people are just so stupid nowadays, they just assume because people are married they have the same last name. Maybe YOU should pay more attention."
I was HOT, fuming. That she couldn't have just told me. No one on his side of the family told me she didn't take his name. I was at their wedding and they were announced as Mr & Mrs. Why would I think any different. So I had this rather lengthy retort back to her. My husband came to see why I was whacking away at my keyboard. 'You can't say that. Don't respond don't say anything just let it go. ' My response ended up being a big FU*K across my screen. Just the word with a few duplicate letters.
Of course everyone asked me what was wrong. I just said I was frustrated that others are allowed to speak their mind, but I can't .
His aunts figured out what was up and explained things to me, I simply asked why didn't anyone say anything, that I didn't realize she would be so petty. 'That's just how she is.' A couple more weeks passed and she wouldn't drop it. So I unfriended her. Now thinking I couldn't see anything anymore (umm....You're 'friends' with my husband) His whole family found out how nuts she is. It went on another 2 months. It took 5 years for her to apologize to me. By then I didn't care. I told she acted the idiot and she had to live with what she did. I did nothing wrong since, I was not informed and that she let something petty like that keep them from coming to the wedding and went on for a few more months.'
So on Steemit. My approach is different. I take the time to think of what I am going to say. I reread it to make sure my intent is clear. If it is a 'rant' post I clearly state it. I have done 1 in 6 mos. This is a very good post and one to spark interaction. To me those are the best. Get people to communicate.
Wow..!
I'm amaze to have such a comment for my post. Thank you for your wonderful comment.
Yes, it is very true that writting in anger is not good because we will end up in regret.
Just a thought,
Maybe at that time she is on an arguement with her husband and when she read your invitation with their name combine she suddenly burst into anger and start whacking away at her keyboard just like you did but the only different is she have nobody to stop her just as your husband did for you.
Just a thought though. I really appreciate you sharing your opinion but my upvote won't give you much. Hopefully that rwp
You are lucky that your husband manage to stop you in time because if not, it may be something that you regret now.
We may be able to delete a post on FB but the fact that we once post the sentence will always be in our history.
By the way, did she explained why she did a post like that on FB? Maybe her reasoning could be the reason for you to forgive her and be the start of a new chapter in your life.
I really appreciate your replies but my upvote won't give you much. Hopefully my reply would show you some appreciation.
You're welcome first of all and no worries on the upvote. I actually love the interaction.
From what I found out I wasn't the 1st person who had done it and she took it too personally. When my husband's aunts explained to her I didn't know she said it was no excuse LOL. They laughed and told her she was being unreasonable. She's an odd character and she's truly a character. She never refers to her husband as my husband or my hubby. She always calls him Mr. E (E is the first letter of his name) . I am really glad my husband stopped me. Yeah the post was along the lines of 'How am I supposed to know if you don't tell me?' I was harsh in my criticism.
I was the one who requested her as friends again, figured it was completely stupid to begin with. I just couldn't deal with her daily dose of insults. The rest of the family found out how nutty she is by her own action. They all told her to apologize and to stop the trash talk. She's not one to do what she's told. She says she'll behave any way she wants even now at 40 yrs old she still has this attitude.
And you could be right, maybe the fact I was able to let it go and forgive her enabled her to do the same. I learned a long time ago. Don't look for an apology, you'll never get one. If you can come to peace with yourself. That's all that matters.
Thank you for sharing your story.
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