When you are triggered by people who verbally puke on you and act like if it is cool to do so, it is best, to take a step back, breathe deeply, have a walk with the dog, make a tea instead of another coffee, calm down, watch the whole situation from far away and breath again.

breath is the mother of all yogis,

a wise old man told me when I was young. He also told me that you can not be angry while breathing deeply and relaxed. It is impossible do to both at the same time. I tried it and I really have to agree. A simple but highly effective anger control mechanism.

Don’t Feed Anger

It is very hard to remain still and silent while our emotions are burning us inside out. Anger floats our bodies with different chemistry like an energy booster and makes us want to do something we could regret later.

stepping back

has the quality of deescalating things, allowing space for the other person to let it out and maybe feel less pressure or pain afterwards. Seeing things from 3rd person perspective and watching the conflict unfold from far away without emotional aggrandizement is also a powerful tool.

We often confuse aggression with strength and non-action with weakness. Giving in to the impulses of anger is weakness. But it takes a lot of strength to face our own fear, usually the root of our anger.

This world is allready full of greed, hate and division , no need to resonate these destructive frequencies further. Sometimes it is nessesary to face the ugly truth and to communicate bad things to inform or warn others but you should never get lost in negativity alone. There is darkness and bright sunshine, Life is both positive and negative and every healthy soul needs a well balanced mix of both.

Life itself is such a fractal beauty, we should really enjoy this short wonderful strange trip called life on this cosmic irrelevant sand corn called earth, captured by and traveling along with our sun. One of trillions of suns.

Nature is what resonates best with me and it is an important tool to stay healthy, to calibrate and harmonize my soul.

toxic troll comments

Most of the time it is not you doing anything wrong, most of the time you are just a proxy, a projection space for someone to unload all his/her pain, hate, fear and anger, that release of an inner pressure pile up without a chance to ventilate the pressure elsewhere. It is just a mirror of the verbally puking persons struggle in his/her life. The more you think about it, the more you feel sad for the person who is in urgent need to attack you, an angry inner child in need to hurt without any rational reason. Similar to an alcoholic with agressive tendencies who also feels the strong need to verbally or physically abuse most of the persons arround him/her.

time to act

When it comes to ugly defamation below the beltline, you have to step in and confront the poor soul with real life consequences either with words or your fist in his face, either with your stake on Steemit or through a legal process in real life. Living a balanced life does not mean to do nothing if someone accuses you falsely of very bad and ugly grave things. You have to set limits and communicate them. Sometimes a controlled dose of anger without loosing your inner balance, without being eaten up by aggression yourself can be used as a powerful tool to make things clear, make the destructive pattern disappear.

We are all human, nobody is perfect

I am sometimes easy to trigger, specially when I don´t feel too well with my own perfomance in life. Stepping back when the adrenalin shower sets in is my secret tool to not get caught in the bad vibes too badly and to avoid resonating with destructive frequencies.

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