It is a difficult thing for two to truly coexist, especially given the way the farmers of men encourage self centered focus. It has created an epidemic of narcissism. That aside, then you get two who are in the honeymoon stage, both putting on masks (or one I guess) as they try to be worthy. But in their minds they envision this carefree life with no worries that love conquers, and so often one or both grow resentful of the other because life had different ideas.

It takes two whose love is so strong for the other that they do not resent the hardships, especially as is so often more comes from one of the two. They have an empathy and understand it is a privilege to be able to lighten such a beautiful persons load, or to at least be there to hold their hand in understanding when as is also often the case, there is nothing you can do to alter the situation.

Love is often dove into due to an addiction by many to those honeymoon rushes, having little to do with cherishing what will be those hard times.

Impossible to get from another for a long term period what it is you are incapable of giving yourself.

Another big down factor that destroys any new blossoming relationship is you and your self-sabotaging.

So true