Yes, the first thing is yourself. In life you will get a lot of lies from people talking about not putting yourself first but I want to ask the question how can you help a drowning man? By drowning with him or by climbing out and find a way to drag him out?

Self acceptance is very important in our life journey. We must be ready to accept ourselves for what we are. From there move ahead to build on our strength and develop our weakness. It is only from a position of self reliance that we can help others.