It Shouldn't Be Just Words II, Contributed By @Olawalium
…continued… from part 1
Many people really need to learn how to say sorry. When you know you have hurt someone whether seriously or just mildly, you need to learn how to pacify the anger and sometimes it takes a while. Let that be your ‘punishment’ for what you have done; see it as one, so it can linger in your memory not to allow such happen again. You can send a note or a text, and you can make a joke out of it after you have truly apologized, but no, not many people can do these things. Most especially the ladies, they believe they can use their female wiles to placate guys. It works for some but for someone like me, I am sorry, those wiles don’t work. Just say you are sorry with sincerity and I will forget such a thing ever happened and won’t even bother making reference to it.
Not every man can stick around while boiling to have you rub their heads or their back or kiss their lips. I see it as a way to bribe me to forget or overlook what you have done and I will always make reference to it unless you truly admit your wrong and atone for it. Often times we try to sweep things under the carpet. We feel we can use our ego; as a guy or use our touch; females to cover up our inadequacies. Sweeping the dirt under the carpet won’t make it go away, but facing it and wiping it clean would go a long way to heal.
Most of the times when we hurt others, all we focus on at that time was ‘us’. You focused on yourself without thinking about the other person. You think you were smart and forget to think about how the other person would fare and this is why when we see that we are in the wrong, we feel our ego was bruised and we have been seen for whom we are, then we start acting up. Not everyone can take the truth about who they really are. Sometimes we get too smart for ourselves and then score an own goal.
We often take people for granted and that influences why we hurt then and think we don’t have to say sorry, or better still, we say the sorry without really meaning it, and that is totally wrong and unacceptable.
…to be continued…
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Just say a sorry saying, nothing goes away, but the relationship can be saved from the breakdown.Anger is a quick moment of a person who is only for a short time, after which the person becomes normal again. But for this the next person should realize his mistake. By seeking an apology, the moles of the mind are washed away, because in the word 'sorry' it is the power that can change the spirit of revenge.
Our obstacle in our acceptance of mistakes is our egoistic mind.First of all, we need to control our egoistic mind.
Thank you friend @olawalium
Very well, my friend. We need to tame our ego and look beyond it. When we place appropriate value on friendship or that partner, we will kick our ego to the curb and embrace peace. Saying "I am sorry" with genuineness of heart goes a long way to save that relationship.
The word 'sorry' could go a long way in making a angry mind relieved if say wholeheartedly. Some feel to big to say sorry while some say it without it coming from their heart. The best is, we should always learn how to apologize once we have wrong someone. Not just framing things up in order to cover such iniquity up.
Absolutely! Many people will try to look for excuses just to cover up their inadequacies. They will try to refer to an old engagement to prove a point so as to feel good about themselves and deviate from the apology. It's not too far fetched to see that ego and pride is at play in such lives. We can do better.