RE: Embracing fairness: Need over want
Sadly, that feeling of entitlement is wide-spread, both in adults and kids. Even a lot of parents who as kids had nothing or very little can become entitled later in life, when their condition improves. You see that in the consumerism that has sunk its claws into our world. Many in my parents' generation had very little (due to Communism and all that) but are now raising kids who'll take everything, who think they are owed and who often take more than they need just because they can.
Give without the expectation of anything in return
If only more people thought like that...but we take instead, 'cause it's easier. Another thing that strikes me about your post is that kids are usually self-centered, they care about their wants a lot. But those kids at some point become adults and it's their responsability to self-educate, to become better human beings and understand the above lesson. It is the parents' fault, but not just. We all have the power to better ourselves, regardless who our parents were.
I agree with you completely. It's not going to improve though I think. Parents with the feeling of entitlement and the consumerism ethos are likely to pass that down to their kids. Back in my day I got influenced by a small group of people and these days people get influenced on a global scale. Doesn't bode well I think.
Still, we as individuals can embrace our own ethos and feel content doing so. I think that's all there is and soap-boxing or trying to change others is futile.
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Exactly. I mean surely, you're highly influenced by your parents, by your up-bringing, but it seems to me that only cuts it up to a certain point. You can't come to me at 30 and tell me 'oh well, it's my parents' fault'. You're not a child anymore, at some point, you must take responsability for your actions. After all, if someone gets hurt by your actions (be you 20 or 60), you can't really go 'well, blame Dad'. It wasn't Dad that caused it, it was you. :/
very true. The fact that many kids these days are being "influenced" by idiotic American trends is certainly not helping. But again, their fault. You can choose to be led, to be a sheep. Or you can choose to look around. I have little patience for people who blame others.
Accountability is what you're talking about I think and you're right. The formative years are for developing the skills as a foundation then the structure is built on top as one travels through life. Life experiences have a bearing also.
Unfortunately blame raises its ugly head at times and people deflect their accountability in that way and through that vehicle. It's negative and destructive but it aligns with the entitlement ethos and so people liberate it from within the darker recesses of their personality rather than deploying responsibility and ownership.
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