REMOVING SELF DOUBT ONE CONVERSATION AT A TIME...

in #powerhousecreatives5 years ago (edited)

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WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE... IF YOU KNEW YOU COULDN'T FAIL?!


“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” ― William Shakespeare

Would your circumstance and/or situation be any different to what and where it currently is? Have you ever considered "removing doubt" from your life? Doubt is what prevents most of us from achieving the things that we want, or even attempting to achieve them in the first place. So how? How do you remove doubt? To my mind, one of the first things I would suggest is probably the opposite of what people would expect...

ACKNOWLEDGE IT.

Yes. Acknowledge doubt! Have you ever taken note of how you internally "self-talk" when approaching a meeting / interview or a situation that possibly makes you a little nervous You will generally try to "psyche yourself up".

In those pressured situations, our self-talk is in many ways a "knee jerk" reaction... one which is powered by adrenaline... but there is a note to be taken from those moments of positive self talk.

Doubt, can and often does creep into those situations too but is normally overridden by the adrenaline. Your fundamental desire for "success and survival" generally takes care of those little voices in those situations and then you look back and go "how the #$%& did I just do that?!"

The times that I am referring to however, are the ones when you are NOT powered by adrenaline - when those little voices of "negative self-talk" repeat themselves to you over and over, ultimately pushing you into a corner of zero self confidence.How do we deal with THOSE voices?

Like I said... those times of adrenaline have a lesson to offer. When in a highly pressurized situation you are aware of your self-doubt yet you mostly manage to quietly and quickly put it to bed - explaining to yourself that "you can do this". This, in my opinion... is PRECISELY how you should be dealing with doubt on every other occasion. Ignoring it only makes the voice louder.

Speak to it - acknowledge it and the reason/s why it is there and then... no matter how ridiculous it sounds... explain "to it" why it is no longer needed. Much like a tyre that slowly loses pressure - acknowledging and then dismissing self-doubt and negative self-talk, immediately removes power from it.

Try it ;) - No. Not once... EVERY TIME!


Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx

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@jaynie I love this method!! Instead of suppressing or avoiding, we should just acknowledge and face it squarely so that it loses momentum! So much wisdom here 💕💕

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@joeylim & @jaynie,

Instead of suppressing or avoiding, we should just acknowledge and face it squarely ...

One could say the same about one's 50th Birthday, couldn't one?

Quill

Well, we're here to live our lives to the fullest and make them look full ;)

Also, happy 50th birthday! In advance, true, but Quill would still insist. Otherwise, I might miss it, I guess.

And while I'm wishing you Happy Steem Anniversary, according to @quillfire I must also wish you a Happy 50th Birthday! (I upvoted this so it would make it to the top of your comments )

Doubt is important if used correctly. We should always second guess important decisions. We just need to control it and not let it overwhelm us.

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Self doubt can undermine everything you do, and all of your relationships. (And yes this is from personal experience.) If you are caught up in fear of failure and other emotional wastelands, there is typically very little emotional energy left to give to others. And if you can’t nurture relationships, they can’t thrive. So we really owe it to ourselves and to others to try to move past self doubt.

If this didn't make so much sense, I'd tell you you were crazy to tell us to talk to ourselves like crazy people 🤗🤣

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I sometimes love to fail, on purpose
And my doubt is always right , very strange but almost 97 times out of 100 true so I let it guide me

as jy in twyfel is, kom nie in die hande nie

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Good words of wisdom @jaynie. I used to work for a bully, a person with a napoleon complex of the nth degree. I shuddered at the thought of meetings with him. He knew he intimidated others and enjoyed it. I would always pray before the meetings, to release those words of self doubt and fear. Pretty scary guy, but you are right, speaking the words aloud really does help! :)

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