RE: Just another rant about the same ol' shit
You do have a point. It takes a lifetime to raise your parents.
In order to change what society thinks what you have to do to be a proper, "good" and productive citizen and a human being, it takes people that do things differently. Again and again. Talking about different ways of living. No matter what majority of people think about their usefulness.
For instance measuring the well-being of society according to gross domestic product is futile, wrong and pointless. In my opinion. The concept of having a "good" life if you own a house in the suburbs, go to work every weekday with your second car, have 2,5 kids, a dog and raising your kids to do the same as you did is a thought that too many people consider to be the only way to live a good life.
If I could change the things I did when I was 15 to 25 years old, I wouldn't change a thing. But what I would change would be the way I would state my mind and decisions to other people. My answers to my mother, to my teachers, to people who didn't treat me nice, could have been a little bit nicer. Instead of something like "Go fuck yourself, you are wrong, an idiot using authority as a weapon", I could have said: "I hear your point and I'm trying to understand it, I hope you could do the same for me."
After all, you never know the true reasons why someone says anything to you anywhere. Probably they were raised differently. Maybe they are prisoners of their own thinking. Maybe they have a bad day, week, month or a year. Maybe they are trying their best, thinking of your best, but they don't see that their means are making things worse. Maybe they have lost hope and their hands are tied due to low funding. Or maybe they are afraid. Afraid of not doing enough or doing too much.
It's a huge responsibility to raise a child. Realize how differently you have to do and say things to different children (and people generally). There are those children that practically almost grow up on their own. And you constantly worry that can you show enough love to them because they are so easily forgotten behind those who demand your attention more. And then there are those that are always in trouble. And you are worried that can you also spot the times when they are kind and easy so that you wouldn't always notice only the "bad" things.
And then there is the fear. Fear of loosing your child. Fear of loosing any child that has been given to your care. Almost the worst feeling ever because the worst feeling is if you loose a child.
That I whole-heartily agree with. Money and wealth increase well-being only to a certain point after which it becomes meaningless. I think there some other meters for measuring well-being other than gross domestic product but can't recall them now.
I'm sympathetic towards the few people that keep hoping things from me, maybe they have never had people like me in their lives who go against their values and beliefs. I dislike conflict and discussing these things when I'm "trapped" with the family gatherings of my moms side, would be rude to not be with them when they actually visit me. It's stressful but I'm trying to express myself which is hard to do knowing to get the unsatisfied attitude back, which makes me actually more eager to run away, lol. I'd rather not talk and let my actions speak for themselves instead of dwelling in the "But what after?" I hate when that's questioned because for me it's impossible to say with certainty, it depends what happens on the journey.
I totally get the "fear factor", mom tends to think and worry. But so have I had fears, which have turned out to be pointless when I've learned to face the stressful situation.
Thanks for the thoughtful comment @jokinmenipieleen!
I was wondering that same thing. Cant recall it but I'm sure there is one and I've seen several articles about it... Oh well. :)
Or, maybe in their perspective, that's all they ever see and hear. Everywhere. And they have taken it to be their life mission to correct the whole world of those, who do not think alike because that must be the only way to make everything that is and ever will be wrong in the world. Make the world great again. Make everyone believe alike, make everyone see alike, make everyone think alike, Make everyone look alike. The Pod People.
Wow. That escalated quickly.
"I know you're only going to the store 100 meters away, but CALL ME WHEN YOU GET THERE. DO YOU HAVE YOUR WARM JACKET ON?!"
And when moms become grannies they start baking and cooking and overfeeding everyone because "You are so thin, are you sure you don't have anemia, you should eat something. Have you eaten enough, take one more."