In my opinion;
Not everyone was happy to undergo liver or stuck in the controversy between the two options. The complicated relationships like that led some difficult decisions so that it becomes a prolonged problem.

There are people who feel has lost its sense of self-confidence in almost the entire area of his life. May be associated with the crisis, depression, lost control, feel helpless stared at the sunny side of the future, and others. There are also people who feel yet pede/confident with what he did or what he practiced.
There are also people who feel less confident when facing a situation or circumstances. Based on the practice of life, we could say that the latter was normal in the sense that experienced by all human beings.

Thanks my teacher @nomad-magus