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RE: Why Polyamory was Right for me - Part. 1
Ive never tried the whole open relationship concept myself however I did work at a nudist and swingers resort for many years. I always asked the couples that had been married many years what made their relationship so successful. The response "everyone gets bored and wants a different flavor ever now and again, it's not the cheating but the lying about it that kills relationships. Sex is just sex and the love of spending your life with someone and understanding each other's primal needs is something totaly different.
Like I said I havnt got there yet however I certainly wouldnt rule it out of future relationships.
That response is soooo true! And like, there is no rush, if you ever feel like trying it out you can but if you are happy without it that is great too :)
I have had couples want me to bang the wife before in front of the husband. I was sort of surprised and didn't know what to think. The husbands wanted to see their wives be naughty.
It seems to me swingers and polyamorous are quite different. Both swingers in the couple get satisfaction in the same time, but polyamorous get separately. It is like your wife make dinner for you or for you and your guests or just for your neighbour, without inviting you to taste the main dish). Although I believe this model of relations has right to exist, but does not look like win-win approach.
Not at all! I've seen swingers at this resort where I worked where the husband just like to watch other men or women fuck his wife and visa versa and I've seen full swap couples with or without watching/participation/mixed participation.
Maybe I use the term loosely, perhaps there are all different kinds of swinging?? My definition would be openly and honestly having sex with others while in a committed relationship.