RE: Is Being Resilient Too Hard?
I think in a lot of ways we and the environment create these 'monsters'. We live in a very wealthy time where most people generally have enough. Add to that the ease at which things are obtained, at a click of a button you have other people giving you answers and a pat on the head etc.
So kids don't generally have to work at getting things. We also have quite hectic lives, so they are not priority. Time is usually spent in work and hobbies. So things, www,social media are all the things that kids gravitate towards and due to the lack of time spent with them they then haven't learned the skills to control those things and recognise the issues associated.
All of these add to kids that don't need to get a backbone, or push through. With a million resources fighting for their attention its easy to flip and flop from one thing to the next.
It's not as though if they don't get the wood they will be cold that night......thise things just don't happen anymore.
Kids are soft these days, and it's not getting better either.
Thanks for post.
So true. I used to mow the lawn when I was about 9, but could/would a 9 year old today be given the same level of responsibility? I would guess: No!
Do you think it's become a bit of a spiral? We don't think they are capable of performing such a dangerous task, so don't give it to them, then they lose some of the self-confidence they may have had, so we trust them even less, and so on?
I do think so actually. We want a better life for our kids, and in so doing we actually hamstring them somewhat. I don't think it's purposeful. I think of the story if the bird needing to break through the eggshell, if we open it for them they become weak and usually don't make it. We do the same with our kids. Let them be bored, let them struggle and fall.....its so tough