What I Would Change About My Parenting - Steemitmamas Parent Contest Week 3

I'm afraid I was too late. My son now is already a teenager. He now needed a friend rather than a naggy mom. He would listen to me if I talk to him as a friend.

When he was in primary school, I used to teach him Maths and other subjects. The Multiplication Table is undeniably the king of arithmatics. I got him to memorize the table well. So, I thought he was a fast learner.

However, he would make a lot of careless mistakes. When I was teaching him the 'problem solving questions', he would get confused and I would scream at him... "Which part can't you understand!!??", "Aren't you supposed to multiply this before adding up!!??", quite often... until my parents would warn me that I was overdoing it and going overboard with the screaming.

He got startled and became timid. He could feel my deep frustrations towards his inability to understand. He tried to hold back his tears, but he hid his face and sobbed.

I wish I had not screamed.

How I wished I could change that.

Now as a teen, I could see his insecurity and low self-esteem, which I regrettedly admit, I created those traits in him. I have started to read a lot of how to raise his self-esteem and confidence.

So, yesterday had passed... He's already in secondary school. I should focus on tomorrow, I would change my temper. I would change my laziness. I would change my impatience.

My temper led me to scream. I should just take deep breathe and smile at my son... Then start to teach. Not scream nor sigh, kids read body language very well.

My laziness overtaken my mind to become a couch potato to watch TV and respond to stuffs in my mobile phone. I should get up and sit with him while he's doing homework. Giving him the reassurance that I will be there to help him.

My impatience also, I couldn't take a single mistake or error that he made. Why so tense!? Only a clear mind can teach and respond to someone else effectively. Impatience led to mind vagueness and become unmannered. Be patient, clear the mind and respond in kindness. Never try to solve a problem in an impatient mind.

Those are only about 10% of what I would and should change about my parenting. I still got a lot to change. I'm just thankful that he still loves me a tonne after all that stupid screaming.

Special shout out to my son: @flyingkittie

Ref: Week 3 Parent Contest by Steemitmamas

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