While I agree with you in the sense that a complaint always has a justification and for the one who feels complained, from his subjective point of view a relief wants to experience, I would like to offer nevertheless also another perspective.

We live in a world full of complaints, people really get excited about a lot and burden a community that feels constantly exposed to new complaints, which it has heard very often.

Blogging is also a very public affair and many of us have not learned to deal with it when someone does not confirm you but gives you unsolicited advice. I am comparing two ways to deal with it: you find that the commentator has gone too far, that he or she has not dealt enough with what has been said, and that he or she simply wants to express his or her displeasure. Then you have a rather negative view of this commentator.

One can also assume that any comment is an attempt to help, no? Even if you see anger or arrogance shimmering through, you either want to help yourself believe what you're saying, or you want to help the author of the text. Granted, all this is often not very elegant or eloquent.

With regard to the commentator we are talking about here, a re-quest would also have been a possibility - why not? It seems that the commentator himself has not yet quite arrived at what he advises the author to do. I, on the other hand, think that it contains the general desire to complain less. Isn't that also true? He did not propose anything violent or immoral.

If we believe we can recognise a certain tendency in the way someone expresses himself, we humans tend to want to compensate for it. Blogging and expressing oneself does not mean that one is always the one who knows exactly how life works, one does not only have the role of the publisher and "teacher", one also finds oneself in the role of the learner.

I agree in this respect with the view that less complaining would be better. If my complaint leads me to find an insight into how I feel less burdened, then there is nothing to say against it. ....But what, when the complaint wants to be only confirmed? How far does this bring me? It doesn't have much development potential if nobody comes and questions it. My experience with people who tend to complain is that they are more likely to be rejoicing and even angry when asked, not to mention giving advice.

Don't you also perceive sometimes that the complainant wants the environment to change or adapt according to his or her ideas, and what hurts him or her should be improved or alleviated by others?

This is the way to give up a lot of self-governing, if you ask me.

From my point of view the blogger has taken it much too personally. She shows no interest in the commentator or asks why he thinks he has to give advice. She compares a simple but not particularly interested commentary with an invasion and a religion imposed on her. I think that is very exaggerated. Though I see also a grain of truth in it I ask myself why she did not get the chance to get into a dialogue with her assumed view of this commentator and asked him instead of speculated? A very far-fetched speculation about a complete stranger who suggested one thing to her.

I understand very well the hypocrisy found in many esoterically superficial self-help guides. But then one can also be glad to have uncovered such hypocrisy. How good that one can distinguish authenticity from charlatanry, isn't it? Then why do we have to denigrate and ridicule those who are still searching and will find their own disappointments?