"Relax....."

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This is something I have said so much to my mom and then I find my husband saying to me ever since we have our child 3 years ago. Hahaha. I think I must have been always on my guard or the "flight or fight" mode.

I am thinking why have I gotten so tense and fidgety. Honestly, I am also a bit scared I would develop anxiety like what my mom is having currently from time to time. Then, I tried to just trace back to when it started. It has gotten more "serious" since the arrival of our boy because my protective instinct is always up. Yeah, I get it a lot from others that "If you overprotect him, he cannot grow." In case you do not know, I do let go more and more deliberately, one of which is also people's comments hahahaha!

Anyway, I am trying to just harbor on the good aspects of this mother's instinct.

Published in the September issue of the Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science the research says that breast feeding mothers have an aggressive instinct of protecting themselves and their babies. The research results say that due to breastfeeding the body’s usual response to fear is dampened giving women an extra edge and courage to defend themselves and their babies. This is similar to how mama bears are seen to protect their young ones and therefore it is being called the ‘mama bear’ affect. Source-Growing Your Baby

So, that's why!!! I am a MAMA BEAR!!! LOL.

Read this too that I find very interesting, so I will just quote it here:

While generally humans and other animals flee or freeze when faced with an imminent threat — mothers stay put to protect their babies. And neuroscientists from Lisbon’s Champalimaud Centre have discovered the secret ingredient which makes mothers fight rather than flee - it's the ‘bonding’ or love hormone, oxytocin.
The new study examined mothers' defensive behaviour and how oxytocin regulates their reactions. Source-Growing Your Baby

I often feel like adrenaline is rushing through me and I am just ready. Ready for what? I honestly don't know, haha. I am learning to embrace the inner "mama bear" and accept that I have changed yet not overdoing it to create unnecessary pressure to others around me (though I know I am, I am so sorry).

Looking at my mom, she has been relentlessly protecting us four children by not introducing junk food to us till we were 9. She did a lot of things which I could not understand back then but I can understand slightly more now that I am also a parent. I have become more and more grateful for her intention behind her actions. She wakes up really early to make breakfast for us, homemake all her buns and breads, even noodles as much as she can. I could not understand what's with all the troubles, but now I know it is her protective instinct. Happy Mother's Day, Mummy!

Learning to relax

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It was Mother's Day yesterday at where I am, and I strive to relax. I got to know that my child and family are in good hands, God's hands. He wants to love them and can love them and me more than I can. I got to stop just relying on my strength but to trust Him and also others around me more.

I have learnt to take a step back yesterday, off some duties and commitment from Steemit too, to just relax and talk with my boy and look at his face as he look at mine. I savor moments like this because I know they do not last and with the amount of thing he talks about these days, I know he is growing up very fast. He has been asking me to put away phone so I figured I must do that more yesterday, which explains my absence a bit more.

There are many ways to relax which I will not go into, because it differs from what status we are in. We can relax at where we are.

Now God has offered to us the same promise of entering into his realm of resting in confident faith. So we must be extremely careful to ensure that we all embrace the fullness of that promise and not fail to experience it. ~Hebrews 4:1 (The Passion Translation)

It takes deliberate effort to enter the rest. (Oh yeah, every year on Mother's Day, I treat myself to a whole tub of ice cream! That's me celebrating myself!)

Now that I know how I am made in my human design and also knowing that there is a place for rest, I know I can juggle this better for my well-being as well. Thank you for reading through my ramblings. Happy Mother's Day to every mother, especially my mom and mom-in-law and even every single parent who has taken the place of a mom. You are all inspiring and wonderful!

"Remember to breathe...."

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