THE TWELVTH EPISODE OF LET’S TALK ABOUT IT WITH @OLUWATOBILOBA……..PLEASE HELP, I AM 23 YEARS OLD AND MY MOTHER MUST NOT SEE ME WITH A MAN.

I am really excited this morning and I think the reason is because I will be a year older next week that will be the beginning of a better year for me. I must say that it has been a very wonderful year filled with so many lessons and I want to say a big thank you to God for the lessons I have learnt this year.

Thank you for coming around this week, there is nothing that gladdens my heart more than being the reason behind someone’s smile and I am so happy that you have decided to be a part of what makes me happy. Thank you.

REPORT FROM LAST WEEK.

Since the friend from last week’s episode was not a steemian, I had to show him people’s reaction and contribution and he was surprised at the level of interest shown to his story.
We had a very long chat and I am glad that he opened up to me, so we were able to reach a reasonable conclusion at the end of the day.
I am sending a big hug to everyone that participated, please keep shinning.

RELATIONSHIP QUESTION FOR THE WEEK.

FROM THE SECRET: Please I need to know your opinion on this issue, do you think it is advisable to put your effort into making your man a better person or just put all those effort into making yourself a better person as a Lady?

THE GIST FOR THE DAY.

I am really excited because today’s gist is going to take a slight change in form and appearance, it is going to look a little bit different from what we have been having on other episodes and the reason is because this issue is not really about lovers, but it is an issue between a mother and a daughter.
It is important to note that relationship issues do not only occur among lovers, but the root is so deep to the family and I think that is even a very vital issue that need to be addressed to make the world a better place.
I do not want to bore you with excessive talks, so I will just allow my guest speak for herself.

Hello everyone, my name is Becky and I really have this confusing issue with my Mum, I am a pretty young lady, I am 22 years old and I have not had any issue with having male friends because I have a free spirit and I like being close to people.
The issue I have has been my mother, she has always warned me against getting close to the opposite sex right from childhood, whenever she sees me with the opposite sex, and it becomes a difficult situation for me. I thought she was just acting that way because I was young and I was in secondary school, but then I realized that even if she sees me with me with a man while I was in the university, her countenance will change suddenly.

One day, I meet an old school mate just in front of our house, I was around 20 years of age back then, and I was really excited to see him, we had a long chat and while we hugged each other to depart, I received a very sound slap on my back, to my amazement it was my Mother, she pulled me by my dress and she told the young man never to come anywhere around me again, that was a very embarrassing and ugly situation for me, I can never forget that ugly incident till date.

One thing she has succeeded in doing, is to crate her fear in my heart, I can’t even look at her to talk to her as a mother, whenever I have any slight issue, what I do is to run to my pastor’s wife, who has tried to talk to my mother on countless occasions but all to no avail.
The woman is even getting tired of trying because whenever she talks to my Mum, My Mum will begin to tell her about how she feels she should handle her own children with care and stop getting involved with other people’s family affair.
So, all she does now is to pray for me and advise me as a mother whenever I run to her with any issue.

The whole thing is getting more complicated because I now have someone who loves me and who is ready to get married to me, my pastor’s wife knows about this and she felt it was a good idea to tell my Mum about it, so she asked the Man to come around and she came with us as well while we went to see my Mum.

When we got to the house, my pastor’s wife started off by telling her how I was a beautiful young lady who will attract young men on her own even without exposing my body or wearing anything attractive, she mentioned to her the need why she has to allow me make a decision of going into a relationship and my Mum acted calm to our surprise.
We were all happy with the thought that she has a change of mind finally, but the moment he introduced himself to my Mum, she sent all of us out of the house, she insulted my pastor’s wife and embarrassed the young man. That was the most embarrassing moment of my life.

I am tired of all this drama and I do not know what to do anymore, the reason why I have been this calm all this while is because My pastor’s wife feels she is my Mum, it will be very bad to disrespect her as she might decide to lay a curse on me.
I am really tired and frustrated and that is the reason why I am writing to you Tobi, please I really need you to help me get out of this mess. Please.

MODERATOR’S REMARK.

We have heard it all from her, I have limited words to say but I will listen to the great and amazing words you have for her.
Thank you do much for always being a rock I can always lean on when it comes to matters of the heart. I cannot appreciate you all enough for being a mother, a friend, a sister, a brother and everything you have been to me.
May God bless you real good, I really appreciate all your efforts and contribution into making this show a success. We are moving higher by the special grace of God.

SHOUT-OUT.

Fadiji09: A shout out to a clique of friends I just met, Foluke, Tola, Busayo.
A special shout out goes to @flipstar, he has been a wonderful gentle man.

CLOSING REMARK.

Unexpectedly losing two old school mates this week to the cold hands of death has made me realize that we all cannot control our lives.
These people were beautiful, young, radiant and energetic youths, one of them was supposed to begin law school this year, so ambitious, but we lost him.

This has made me decided to laugh as much as I can, help as much as I can, give as much as I can, and most importantly, love with the whole of my heart.
It is necessary for us all to know that, while we look for other’s downfall, while we go around blackmailing people, while we go around betraying trusts, while we go around looking for the downfall of those who have helped us, turning ourselves into a beast all in the name of looking for fame and money, anything could happen.
We do not have the power to stop death, it is inevitable and since we do not know how long we all have to stay on earth, why not slow down a little on the destruction of your fellow brethren, some people just get angry because other people can breath, you are just angry because your friend is always successful at all that he does, so you are looking for his downfall with all that you have.
What if you lose your own life in the pursuit of another man’s life? Please think about this even as we all have a great weekend.
Remember to always let love lead, may God bless us all!!!!
I am @oluwatobiloba, I am a lover and this is my passion.

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